Glad to help - I was surprised as well that they really didn’t take off even the cheap paint in my last rental. I had some quite heavy framed mirrors stuck up. When the time comes you have to be a bit careful pulling them off - follow the instructions carefully when doing so. You have to push down on the bit stuck to the wall quite hard and then pull the tab along the wall until it stretches right out and it all comes off perfectly.

I’ve not got a lot of advice to offer, because what you’re going through is hard and sometimes there’s no easy answer.

I will however tell you from one stranger to another that the shame is misplaced. You have nothing to be ashamed about, because you’re doing the best you can. Sure, some hypothetical you has a shiny clean house and looks like they have all of their shit together but that’s not a real person, and that standard is not useful to hold yourself against. Your mil may very well have a spotless house but you can bet your arse she has other shortcomings where you are absolutely killing it.

Shame like this is almost always a learned reaction from some past events, and almost always it’s utterly unhelpful. You’re getting stuck in a shame spiral treating yourself like shit and then feeling so terrible that you’re in no position to dig yourself out. Try not to hold yourself to impossible standards. Treat yourself like a good friend - do what you can, and then give yourself a break. And try and recognise the areas where you’re doing pretty great, even though the house is a mess. Internet hugs.

His and hers and theirs, apparently.

Yeah I’ve only seen it with the thin pancakes. It’s one of my favourite foods of all time. I am ecstatic to learn that there is a bun form available.

If this is wrong I don’t want to be right.

I hear you though, it doesn’t seem like a traditional combination (not that I’d know). All that aside I’m still sure it’s delicious.

Yup - same in Australia

Feijoada!