Kiagz

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[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 12 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Exactly. And for me it's turned into this awful cycle where the isolation makes my mental health worse, which in turn makes it even harder for me to stop isolating myself. I need to find a way to break that cycle, somehow.

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 18 points 2 months ago (7 children)

Feels like I've been stuck figuring out wtf to do with my life ever since I turned 18. I've made some progress within in the past few years, but I'm still missing the bigger picture. I think the main reason for this is because I've mostly just been alone in my room either gaming or scrolling through social media. I've lost interest in gaming this past year, but now I'm just on social media all day instead. Not exactly an improvement.

I need to actually get out there and try stuff out, explore who I really am as a person. But that means leaving my comfort zone. It's really difficult, and I haven't been able to do it before, so I'm doing something different now by going to therapy. It might be what's needed for me to start moving forward again.

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago (3 children)

sadToo many disappointments lately. Starting to feel hopeless again madeline-sadeline

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 20 points 2 months ago (10 children)

gatekeeping, transmedicalismLove being denied any sort of trans healthcare by the local gender clinic because I'm 2 years above their arbitrary age limit. I'm too old, so I have to go through the national gender clinic instead, which is also denying me access to basic care because it's run by horrible transmedicalists. I hate this country so much badeline-disgust

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Trying to search up info on adhd medication, and all the articles are either written for parents of adhd kids, or they refer to adhd as primarily being something kids and teens struggle with. And why are people still claiming that it's possible to outgrow a mental disorder? Wish it worked like that, would make my life a whole lot easier if my adhd just magically went away as I got older

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

spoilerIt's mainly that, but also wasting my savings on useless crap, not starting voice training or laser hair removal earlier and not taking the necessary steps to build a proper support network. I can't blame anyone else but myself for those things.

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

spoilerWish I could say the same. One year into hrt and I've gotten no real fat redistribution, no height loss, my hands look just as masculine as before, and no genital shrinkage either. I just look like a man with small boobs now, which is exactly what I feared would happen prior to getting on hrt.

Maybe some or all of this will change later on, but having to go another year or two like this is fucking awful, and adds to my feeling of regret at not having started sooner.

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (3 children)

spoilerThere's also the fact that now I have to transition while dealing with so much other shit that I didn't have to deal with back then. I've made things so much harder for myself. I can't forgive myself for that.

Feels like my life up until this point has just been a series of stupid mistakes, and now I'm finally seeing the consequences of those mistakes.

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 19 points 2 months ago (8 children)

gender dysphoria, regret, self-harmSaw the timeline of a trans woman my age that started HRT in early 2022. That could have been me, had I not wasted almost 1,5 years trying to get HRT through the gatekeeping healthcare system. I should have known better and just gotten started with DIY HRT right away. I could have been much further along with my transition by now. Maybe I would have gotten some hip growth as well, since I would have started before turning 25.

But no, I dumb me from the past chose to believe the people on r*ddit saying that DIY HRT is super risky and should only be used as a last resort. Now I hate myself and my body to the point of cutting.

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 18 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Did pretty good at a job interview, but I still got rejected trans-sad

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I wanted to go to a local queer meetup today, but my social anxiety and low self esteem stopped me. Idk how I'm ever gonna make new friends madeline-sadeline

[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

God, I just want some tucking panties that I can actually use cri I've tried ordering from 3 different sellers without success. Last one was origami customs. They're by far the most expensive and with longest waiting time, but I thought it would be worth it since they do custom sizing. It took them 2 months to send me some panties that are too small and made of itchy material.

Such a fucking waste of time and money. I should just try making my own tucking panties / gaff instead

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