LoreSoong

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[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The real trick is to vanquish souls indiscriminately then you get alot more friends and the vanquish enemies part is alot easier. Heck you can even eliminate yourself and put your soul into another vessel to keep the fun going forever!

Just be careful adventurers seem to hate necromancy fun. They always seem to stop the party before you make "too many friends"... jerks.

honestly, I like your perspective better, its way less depressing than how I normally view people. Its still sad to know that people dont praise eachother or themselves enough. but at least from your viewpoint the people I deemed weirdos are not the monsters I percieve. It gives everyone room to grow, Where as im generally more interested in myself. Praising others, Is definitely something I should work on.

I feel bad now, but when I see people practicing basic decency I generally see it as "the bare minimum", When obviously thats not the case. Your perspective is very much appreciated, Thank you!

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (5 children)

but for most tend to exaggerate enormously what other think of ourselves and the truth is, no one cares much.

This is true, but for most people with S.A.D. they were frequently exposed to people who DO care. Family for example constantly commenting on your looks and demenor can have a lasting impact on someone. I was lucky enough to become more rebelious and anti-conformist. but some like my SO, are constantly worried about what others think because its so engrained in them that the people around them are making snide comments to them or behind their backs.

For me, and what im trying to get her to understand. Is that "indifference" is paramount. Its a difficult thing to do but becoming indifferent to the opinions of others is way more powerful than attempting to believe something that isnt always true (that noone cares much). Truth is we are constantly surrounded by wierdos who take a single look at another person and make 1000 judgements.

I find it to be a way more powerful tool to just think about how sad they are, how lonely they must feel, how every foul word is likely a projection of their own lack of self worth. Shrug my shoulders and walk away. Sadly children are not given the opportunity to "walk away". Especially in the case of parents and family.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 3 points 1 week ago

My home feed is "all", sorted by "hot"(weird i know but its a good way to find communities to sub to). I dont usually see nsfw, but I have seen some trans memes, sfw yuri and a instance dedicated to middrift which is kind of nsfw but has no parts showing. If i dont like what im seeing i just block the instance. But it hasnt happened alot. Mostly just news articles and current events though.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 3 points 1 week ago

Honestly that would go hard. The ending is a boss fight against baphomet where you climb him shadow of collosus style to give him pets.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 7 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Maybe all goat variants?

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 7 points 1 week ago

The second brake pedal is obscured by the handlebar post. I was so confused on how youre supposed to stop when the seat is flipped for a second there

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 3 points 1 week ago

I see, sorry for misinterpreting your words, reading back its obvious what you were trying to convey. Your perspective is much appreciated. Yours and everyones comments have been super productive in our converstation trying to work through this today.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Great idea, any specific suggestions? I used to watch alot of stand up but their content was very raunchy so it wasnt really her thing when id show her. We both enjoy bo burham even before he became famous. And lately weve been seeing clips of morgan jay that have had us giggling and quoting.

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Normally Id say im sorry to hear about your situation, but you seem the defiant type. So i assume that would be taken as pitty or an insult. Instead id like to say that you and people like you are in my opinion the most genuine specimens of humanity your defiance in the face of adversity is truely an inspiration.

That being said, do you think its healthy to compare belly aches? I am not accusing you of doing so, but your words in this paragraph

There are people in far worse situations due to worse disability.

To me express the idea that "because others have it worse you should be grateful". This to me is obviously true, but to someone deep in depression or any other dark place in their life could easily be interpreted as, "suck it up". So when dealing with friends and family in some sort of mental spiral. I tend to heavily avoid this line of thinking. Even it is the cold truth they need. But maybe im wrong?

I don't worry about things that are outside of my capacity to change. I cannot shape people into a tenable social situation where I can be myself, so I don't worry about it at all.

This is probably the most helpful bit for my girlfriend (her words), but she mentioned that her social anxiety makes it impossible not to consider every single word and action of those she interacts with. How do you "deal" with not being able to change reality? I feel that ive acheived something similar, a state of neutrality towards the chaos around us. How would you go about helping someone along that path?

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 3 points 1 week ago

This is me and she cant stand it. She always says things like "how can you not care!?!". I am very much into my hobbies and itd be nice to share that with other but... meh

[–] LoreSoong@startrek.website 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Great suggestion, and a place to meet people aswell. Ill see how she feels about this. Might be something we do together, Thanks!

 

Hello, thanks for taking the time to read this. I hope that my SO can read some of your responses and realize that shes not crazy, and Its a major issue with alot of us.

She is 25 and has debilitating social anxiety, She is working on it and making good progress. She has a small group of friends online and talks to them regularly, plays games with them and ever since she started talking to them Ive noticed a huge upswing in her moods and demenor. Lately shes been trying to branch out and meet more people in other online spaces.

She has expressed to me that people seem to just know something is different about her, or they seem to interact with her differently than everyone else. I tried to explain (from my perspective) as a fairly autistic individual (undiagnosed cant afford). That yes people can just sense neurodivergency, and will treat us differently. however I, being raised by extremely extroverted parents am very good at masking.

She, on the other hand doesnt "feel right" hiding herself behind a mask to make people feel comfortable. I tried to explain that, thats just how people are, everyone to a degree is masking. The people who dont, often get a lot of respect for being "real" and or put down by others for being overwhelming or annoying.

Ive tried to offer tools to meet others somewhere in the middle, where i believe most people exist. mirrorism Is a tool that I frequently use to guage the extent of what i can and cant say to someone. I also have a "nonchalant" attitude towards people in general which I think makes people feel comfortable around me. This frustrates her, understandably. Because she cares alot about people and wants to build meaningful friendships. She looks at my tools as being fake, and even points out others within her circles that are unabashedly themselves that get treated better or are more "noticed" even if shes been around longer.

This and other factors are of life are often sending her down these spirals of thinking that are difficult to comfort or reason away, since alot of what shes experiencing is determined by other people who themselves are not always of sound mind. She thinks people dont like her and that shes not "worth" the attention. She is a wonderful presence and cares so much about me, her family and everyone to an extent. I find it frankly unbelieveable that any of what shes telling me is grounded in reality.

Im hoping that a few people sharing thier own experience and tools to work through the spirals. Will both motivate her to keep trying for friends in spite of the cruelty of people, aswell as offer a fresh perspective on being "real" or "fake". In regards to talking to new people.

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