I suppose I cannot reasonably accuse you of an ad hominem as well since a movie character isn’t a real person
You literally admitting that your first response was to try to turn it around, like the special snowflake you still are.
YOU on the other hand just committed an ad hominem also, and ironically just after telling me that’s bad.
Being a special snowflake means getting offended easily, which you clearly are and your responses show that. It's as much an ad hominem as saying someone telling another person to speak softer because they're yelling is committing ad hominem, which is to say it isn't. It's a criticism of your actions.
The way I see it
And who gave you what authority? To begin with, if you didn't want a discussion you wouldn't have started a post. Your reactions so far tell me that you're so insecure about that character in a fictional novel that you're looking for confirmation bias. Do you also build your personality around what others think? That's telling.
You start growing some brains
This is just the cherry on top. Again.
Did they apologize to you afterwards? If not then that's what's fucked up about this whole situation in society. You can't treat a person that you just suspected was a harasser like wind after you do it, and excuse it with "men are shitty, so I'm forgiven for my own shitty behaviour towards the good ones".