SterlingPooper

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[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 18 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (4 children)

dysphoria stuffI'm sad that I lost touch with people I knew, but part of me feels like it was necessary to even reach a point to consider that I'm trans.

In school, I had a support system. I had great friends, and people that I probably kinda took for granted.

But I thought I was straight, I thought I was cis. I was in a costume, and I played the part so well that nobody can look past the mask anymore. They're not thinking about me, they're remembering him. It's tough.

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Uh, nowhere, yet.

If you mean in general, I'm not sure! I'm picking bars to try out, just so I can get comfortable vibing in public again. It's a start, you know?

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 19 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Trying to find the will to go out and make new friends. I've essentially been wallowing since 2020, I feel like I let down everyone as a result. Too ashamed to reach out, but trying to just rebuild my confidence.

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago

Feelings of dysphoria really bad the last couple of days. Making myself go buy a new outfit as a treat 🍭

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 11 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Scared to shop for women's clothing 😬 But, like, wow, it's better in every imaginable way

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 18 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

I don't know how to organically bring things up without being asked, but am also desperate to be asked about those things.

And also despise phone calls because I need to multitask, but inevitably get wrapped up in something that takes up more of my attention than the actual phone call.

I'm convinced that people who are good at conversations are wizards.

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 17 points 4 months ago

My manager likes to talk about Frozen III and how apparently they're having Elsa have a female love interest.

I genuinely have no idea if that's true, but it's mostly just an excuse for him to start talking like "I don't want my kid to see that kind of stuff" and coworkers agree with him. It's disheartening.

I'm on my way out in the next few months, but I think I'm wearing Pride stuff every day until I leave. I'm not out to these people, but I seriously have zero tolerance for those kinds of conversations disgost

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Learning about student loans now because nobody ever explained this stuff to me when I was in school is deeply distressing

Unrelated, does anybody else still have crippling social anxiety as a result of lockdowns? Idk if it's because I left school or other life shit but I don't know where to go or what to do, so I just haven't done anything. My friends all moved on. I feel no momentum.

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 3 points 6 months ago

I am intrinsically drawn to the pansexual colors hexbear-pan

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 18 points 6 months ago (5 children)

Longtime lurker, occasional poster! Trying to come out of my shell because I'm starting to question my gender. I never felt like I fit the mold of "guy" and it's always something that I've had to try to do. I always felt awkward in all ways in school.

Lately, I'm really considering the possibility of being trans. I buy women's clothes, I try to talk and move in a slightly more feminine way. I was on a website and there was a page titled "I hope I'm trans" and seeing that in writing led to this moment of "Oh fish, I think I wish I were a girl!"

I'm trying to figure out who to talk to about these things. People in my life are pro-LGBT, but I'm just generally distant. Like, how to open up about this when I've just never been open. It's a challenge.

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