i rarely know what to post about on here. feels like few of my brainfarts are relevant to being trans these days
i can't seem to get brain to do anything other than rolling spliffs, smoking spliffs, and pressing the reload button
brings back memories
i went first 2015 i think? used to live on terf island there was a terf incident the year after and shut down. but then started again with a different, non-terf organising comittee
posting here to reaffirm my commitment not to abandon the mega just because we have an enby space
i agree but i do think that what you describe is made possible by a lack of empathy - and the decision to analyse the situation by taking the man's feelings into account and not really considering the woman at all.
i don't feel unwelcome. and it's not a here thing either. it's a consistent problem i've had with trans communities for the past 15 years. and in many cases it's been downright harmful and segregated and thats not what its like here. but that doesn't mean that i don't feel like, incredibly different to the vast majority of trans people. and it can be harder to find ur voice in a community when u feel that way. and i had no idea that there were at least several other people here who feel the same, which is kinda the whole reason i would love an enby community. you're not doing anything wrong and i'm sorry i made u feel that way.
but you have a bunch of nonbinary people saying we feel alienated by not having a space to talk about the things we'd like to talk about. for all we know it might lead to more enby participation in the mega because we feel more confident knowing we're not the only ones. i certainly don't see an enby comm as an alternative to participation in the unified community.
i'd consider volunteering to mod it (tho not alone) if it would help with moderation issues.
i v much agree with the way u lay out how the communities should work. the feminist and deconstruction comms should never have been made to "match". and the enby one is a completely different kind of space, in my mind. we're not exactly trying to make a gender comm for each of the 3 genders.
also please please can we have a neutral community. i've always felt v alienated by most trans communities because of this kinda thing and it would be so nice to have an enby community that isn't divided by birth assignment. don't get me wrong i appreciate that the trans community as a whole isn't segregated here but it's hard to feel at home sometimes when it just seems like everyone approaches things so diifferently to me.
i v much agree with the way u lay out how the communities should work. the feminist and deconstruction comms should never have been made to "match". and the enby one is a completely different kind of space, in my mind. we're not exactly trying to make a gender comm for each of the 3 genders.
also please please can we have a neutral community. i sorely need it and i've struggled my entire life in trans communities because of the binarism.
oh yeah i'm way too jaded by uh, men tbh, to be surprised. the problem goes way deeper than just needing to be informed about this one the thing they don't understand. if they can't stop identifying with the man and how he is being wronged long enough to imagine what it's like to be on the other side of the power imbalance, having it explained to you isn't gonna help.
yeah i know, really. partner has told me this more than once. but my real life is weird and i figure it wouldn't make much sense to people