cowboycrustation

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Haven't watched it but my friend's really into Umbrella Academy. In season three Elliot Page's character transitions to male and I've heard it was handled well.

I used to be a complete recluse because of dysphoria. It was lonely, but the alternative was extreme disassociation while being with other people or out in public. It really sucked.

I still get dysphoria now. Some days are worse than others. I meticulously choose what I wear when I interact with other people. I have about three "safe" outfits.

The worst time for dysphoria is when I go to the gym. Can't layer stuff or wear as much shape wear or else it's too hot and sweaty. I just don't go on bad dysphoria days.

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm curious if certain types of potatoes have a higher GI value than others.

Unfortunately dark chocolate's probably not a good option for me. I take stimulant ADHD medication and caffeine gives me breathing problems when I combine it with the medication. Not sure if the caffeine content in dark chocolate is low enough to not have that effect.

I do quite like some nuts, but they tend to be expensive where I live. Roasted pecans are the BEST. I love boiled peanuts but they tend to be loaded with ungodly amounts of sodium. I would eat cashews, dried peanuts, or almonds if there wasn't anything else. My problem is I eat stuff in bulk if I like it, lol. I'll try that with the nuts, not a bad idea.

I'm beginning to think all the bloating's coming from salt. Maybe simple carbs like bread and rice too.

Thanks for your input ๐Ÿ‘

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think most people have some days where they'll feel more masculine than feminine or vice versa, trans or not. You'll just have to observe where it goes in the future. Alternatively, being sick can fuck with your hormones in your body and brain.

Hope you feel better. Being sick sucks. A nice warm cup of tea and a hot shower helps me when I feel like shit.

Thanks, wouldn't be able to do everything without my lovely team of co-mods.

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Firstly, these posts attract the wrong kind of crowd. It tends to get into insult and negativity territory real fast. They get a lot more engagement from outsiders, and that leaves more chance for shitty things to be thrown at members of our community.

Secondly, these posts affect trans people's mental health negatively. If there's nothing we can do to help, it makes no sense to constantly consume media like that. It makes life feel hopeless. Digital self-harm is real and a problem for many of us.

There are many places to consume this media, and frankly it is rather hard to avoid in online trans spaces. This community is not the place to post them.

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I'm still figuring out what kind of man I am and want to be. One thing is being strong for other people. Being able to provide for and support others is important to me. Then being strong for myself, being able to take things and roll with the punches. Obviously, anybody of any gender can embody those, but to me being able to do that will indicate that I'm growing from a boy into a man. Not quite there yet.

I find myself falling into machismo sometimes. It's not the type of man I want to be. I'll do stupid shit or try to fit stereotypes to prove my masculinity or some stupid shit. Part of being young and unsure of myself, I guess. Deep down, I'm a very sensitive, romantic, and whimsical person, but I've buried that for many years because no men around me show those traits. I hope when I move to yankeeland I'll find some better male role models and more freedom to express myself without compromising my masculinity.

 

It doesn't just have to be "oh I'm a man/woman/enby." What qualities do you have or want to obtain as your gender? How do you express yourself? What does your gender feel like?

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This sounds wild. You should make a post about your story.

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I like that look. It's like a feathery mullet with sideburns.

[โ€“] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hey bud, sorry you're having a shitty week. Things will get better in time, but you've just gotta wade through all the shit to get there. Things do have a way of working themselves out somehow. You'll figure out a better path when it comes along.

It really does help to visit friends, even if just for a little bit. If you can't visit in person hop on a discord call and play video games. Something's better than nothing, and being isolated can get addicting and easy to fall into. It's okay to ask for help too. Sometimes friends who are busy will make time for you if you reach out and explain that you're in a rough spot.

I hope next week will be better. Give yourself some grace in the meantime ๐Ÿ’œ

 

I'd like to grow my hair out more when the T starts to kick in. I've had my hair cut as short as can be without looking like a buzz cut. I generally pass well with this haircut.

Problem is, I'm not passionate about the cut. It's fine I guess but I don't feel attractive or self expressive with it. Definitely would rather pass than have a haircut I love, but there'll come a time where I can experiment more without risking my passing. I've got nice, wavy hair and it seems like it's going to waste being so short.

Any of you fellas have suggestions for long-ish haircuts/styles that are still very masculine? I've always been captivated by 60/70s men's fashion, hair included, but I'm open to other things too.

 

How do I not eat a shit ton of food every day because of my increased appetite? I feel bloated all of the time nowadays as well. Any advice on this is welcome.

 

I borrowed this idea from Ada, who made a great post on c/MTF about this. The discussion was very interesting and I wanted to bring it to a wider range of perspectives across the spectrum.

 

Bonus: what are your goals for the future (doesn't have to be specific)

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