cowboycrustation

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I want to preface this by saying that we have a zero tolerance policy for transphobia. Your comment will be removed and you will be banned if you spout transphobia here. Our existence is not up for debate.

That said, how do you differentiate being transgender and being trans racial?

I'm curious how to answer this question in a good faith debate with someone. Emotionally I know that they're not the same and that one is wrong and the other is not wrong, but I'm unsure as to why that is and am curious if anyone else has given any thought about it.

 

My insurance denied covering my testosterone for the second time (UGH) and I can't afford the packets I usually take here ($120 even with goodrx) so I'm wondering if the gel pump would be cheaper. Anybody know?

 

I wanted to give an update on my progress:

My voice has gotten much better. There was a period of time where it was almost hard to speak and I could barely sing and thought my voice would sound like shit forever but I am happy to report that it has leveled out. It even sounds good and has a rich tone.

Losing my voice peremantly was my biggest fear with starting T. Took the risk and I am so glad that it didn't happen.

 

ahhhhhhhhhhhh

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Insecurities (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

After moving states to a much more progressive one i feel like i get clocked all of the time here, whereas back home that rarely ever happened. When i pass by male strangers they dont do the nod thing to me. its very disconcerting. I get they'd by people who don't know me. I wish I could know what it was that makes people clock me like that. It feels like I'm not man enough here. Not being stealth feels like being naked. I don't like it.

Part of me wants to talk about my experiences as a trans man because it is a unique expierence that needs to be known, but at the same time I feel like as soon as I tell people I'm trans I automatically become Man Lite™ and a bunch of assumptions are made about me. And then I'm not man enough and am not treated as any other man would be treated. I wish T would do its magic already. I'm constantly feeling dysphoric these days.

 

i have a decent amount of acne after starting T. I wash my face every night with a cleanser scrub thing but still get lots of blackheads and pimples. Any tips at how to minimize this?

 

ive been ten months on T, got plenty of new hair everywhere except my face. havent even gotten one new hair there. all the men in my family have no trouble growing facial hair. why tf am i not getting a single one

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I'm procrastionating. AMA (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/random@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

Update: still procrastinating

 

I've been having new permanent freckles appearing on my body since starting T. Is this a thing anybody else has expierenced

 

I've noticed that when I used to see myself in pictures I'd hyper assess every little detail of it to check for passing. Now when I see myself in pictures I don't do that anymore. Anybody else notice the same thing?

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What internalized transphobia does to a gal

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I was at a summer camp a while ago and there was this pre-transition trans man who was also there. Eventually as the camp progressed and everyone got to know each other better, I told some of the queer people there I was trans so they could relate to me better.

This person, I kid you not, said "Ha, I knew no one from cowboycrustation's state would have a name like cowboycrustation's name!"

I was like...wtf. My name irl isn't one of those names like fern or star that aren't common among cis people. My name is a somewhat common men's name. I literally have a cousin with the same name.

You might could make a post about it on here and ask for others' advice. There's probably other people on here who have it and know the best way to deal with it.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, those are some good ideas. People sometimes do just need to talk to other people and get reassurance, though. Also in Keris's case a lot of the resources didn't apply to her because they are out of the age bracket. I don't think it's a bad thing to have mutual aid in our community in addition to other programs and resources.

Charities are a good first option, but a lot of times their help has strings attached or it takes time to process the request. The key is having as many options as possible for people.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I feel ya. I struggle with anxiety too. I'm glad you feel comfortable in this community.

I did not know that condition existed 😬. Sounds like you got unlucky in the hair department. Hope you can get some solutions from your dr.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Yeah, I saw it. It was a big coincidence that both of those situations happened at around the same time. The thing about the support community idea is that I hope it can gain as much momentum as this community and MTF has (ftm's size is miniscule compared to those two...sigh). The more people, the more potential for someone in need to get help.

I imagine that some people would rather this community stay for discussion and advice, but it was an emergency so I did what I could. This post (and their posts) on this community really did get a lot of help for Keris.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago (5 children)

That's not a bad idea.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Link to the essay?

Thank you for this! I will pass it along to them.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago (4 children)

That's very kind. This situation has been stressful and I've been all over the place mentally, but things are looking better now for Keris. You've been a lot of help so far and I really appreciate it.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sorry for the delay. It's LuxStellae@gmail.com

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