mrmanager

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[–] mrmanager 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I can absolutely see your point about not fitting in to a gender role. I think many people in technology felt something similar growing up, way before computers were popular. They were considered geeky and people who used them were strange and a bit weird. Absolutely not popular.

It hurts to be treated that way, because you just want to be yourself. And I understand that feeling very much myself. It's the same when you are ugly by the way. Life is completely different when you are ugly compared to when you are beautiful. It's just a different world because every single person will treat you differently. But sorry, that's me going on a tangent...

It makes sense that when you feel like that, you want people to stop treating other people like that.

[–] mrmanager 4 points 1 year ago

Yeah I can see your point. And I smiled at "freezing cold". I mean, to me it's more like "people acting" but its always up for subjective interpretation. Also depends on who is in your list of contacts. I have mostly recruiters I don't know at all.

[–] mrmanager 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah for some reason this stuff is just really hard for some people. It doesn't fit their brain. But other things will perfectly. I think human brains are just more different than we understand.

My girlfriend can remember all her dreams and retell them when she wakes up. And she is sometimes aware she is dreaming and can do anything in the dream. I would kill for that ability, it's super cool. But to her, it's not even interesting. I asked, why don't you just fly around and explore the universe. And she just responded that since she knows it's not real, it's not interesting and pointless.

[–] mrmanager 1 points 1 year ago

I'm amazed you are reading that into what I said. Seems more likely you want to pick a fight with someone. But I have no interest in that, so let's just stop here. :)

[–] mrmanager 1 points 1 year ago

We can agree on that too. Nice.

[–] mrmanager 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I didn't. Maybe you shouldn't read things that aren't there.

[–] mrmanager 1 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I don't know anyone who would say "uncharacteristically smart" like that. Sounds very offensive.

[–] mrmanager 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I disagree actually, but no offense to you personally. I think it's better to be specific and clear and say what we mean. It becomes ridiculous to say "some people" when we mean men most of the time.

Imagine trying to explain to a kid... He asks "are men stronger than females". You are supposed to say "no, some people are stronger than others" and leave it at that? The poor kid is growing up to be an idiot then, not knowing basic biology. Maybe I'm not understanding you correctly.

[–] mrmanager 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Of course, coin could have flipped the other way. Its not like men did anything to get higher strength. Just like woman didn't do anything to be able to have children.

I think we should celebrate that we are different. Sometimes it feels like people thinks higher strength means "better gender". It doesn't mean that at all. :)

I love that woman are different from me. I love everything about it. And my partner loves that im a man. I think we should just celebrate that we have two genders that are different in many nice ways.

As for job history, tall men are paid more than women, and found by girls to be more attractive, at least where I live. I think it's similar to young girls being preferred by almost any man. We have our biological patterns inside and we are not going to get away from them very easily.

The brain is like "this is not right" but our emotions are like "yeah but it's fun". Humans are quite interesting in that way, because we are both emotional and intellectual.

[–] mrmanager 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

I don't think people have selected for that. It was necessary in the past to be strong to survive and provide for your family. So those genes were selected because those people could survive long enough to have kids. If you were too weak, you didn't make it.

[–] mrmanager 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (11 children)

Sure but you are probably aware that all boys being born have higher strength than females, just because of biology. Then of course in life as we grow, some men don't maintain that strength and lose it. But I think it's still accurate to think that men in general are stronger than women, even if there are exceptions.

Otherwise we are just ignoring a fact of how our bodies are different.

[–] mrmanager 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Yeah some people have actually no skills whatsoever in computers. They click icons but don't understand what's happening. I guess it's like me with cars. :p

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