the_itsb

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[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

Omg!! 😍 They're like a sunrise on clouds!! Incredible!

I don't need anymore roses in my garden, but also - I kinda need this rose in my garden.

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You can reset your voicemail, which on some carriers will result in callers getting the, "This voicemail box has not been set up yet," outgoing message (which will not let them leave a message). From the quick search I did, it looks like it's a pretty carrier-specific process, though, so you'll need to search " reset voicemail" to get anywhere.

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Does your carrier's online account management allow you to block numbers yourself? That will prevent them from leaving voicemails. If they don't let you do it yourself online, you'll probably have to call, and regardless, there might be a charge per number - the last time I looked into it, it was $10 to block a number for my Verizon account.

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I love this! I feel this too.

I'm 41, so a lot of my age-peers are running up against the cumulative effect of decades of neglecting their bodies and starting to curse the aging process, but I'm secretly kinda loving it. I made a conscious choice to be more active in my 30s, and now I'm in the best shape of my life.

I have much less energy and so many fewer fucks to give, and this means I've had to learn to be strategic and learn when to cut out things - including relationships - that aren't edifying.

I'm a traditionally cute petite cis woman, and I had fantasized my whole life about shaving my blonde curls off and freeing myself from those golden chains, so I finally buzzed it this spring, and it looks great. And I am in stealth mode all the time now!! Nobody ever recognizes me until they see me with my husband, it's hilarious and awesome every time.

I know myself and my own capabilities better, so I am better about not getting myself in over my head, and I'm more able to ignore skeptics and naysayers. Most of the time, I no longer feel the need to be overly polite and accommodating to their desire to give me unsolicited advice, which is awesome.

I am having a tremendous amount of fun getting old, and I think you will too! I love your attitude. ✊

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 25 points 1 year ago (6 children)

It sounds like you've never had the experience of being the woman used as a lesson, and I'm really glad for you. I'm sorry you think my lived experience is weird! Blessed be.

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

This is kinda my take, too; after reading OP's post, I was left wondering how much time they spend on here and what they're doing outside it.

I know everyone's ability and opportunity to be engaged with the world is different, so I hope this doesn't come off as a "touch grass" kinda thing, that's not how I mean it at all. For people with difficulties communicating or mobility issues, sometimes being online is the best way to engage with the world, and I totally get that. However, I think it's unwise to put all of our social eggs in one basket; we need multiple platforms for communicating and outlets for expression and connection. What ways are you connecting with people outside Lemmy?

When I'm feeling sad and disconnected, I like to work against it by sowing the kindness and understanding I would like to be reaping. This is pretty common advice - it's not unusual for someone going through a rough patch to be told to try volunteering for something they care about - and for me, it is almost always Super Effective.

So, maybe posting on a social media board could be fulfilling, if gone into with the attitude of finding a way to contribute instead of trying to find what is needed.

Idk, maybe that doesn't make sense, I'm not fully caffeinated yet and out of medication and I know I'm not totally with it. But hopefully I'm getting the gist across: posting/commenting would ideally not be your primary (or only) way of connecting with others, posting is usually not satisfying, but empathetic/meaningful commenting can be, and if there's not already a meaningful reply to something, try making one and see how it feels. It might feel better than you expected to be that first meaningful comment even if nobody ever replies; sometimes heartfelt expression can be its own reward.

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 44 points 1 year ago (16 children)

Maybe push him to try and become friends with a female coworker.

Please ask her before you use her to teach a lesson.

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

I'm a little disappointed that the article didn't clarify whether this will also apply for business taxes. I assume it will, since they mention the goal of everything being paperless by 2025-2026, but an explicit statement about exactly which classes of taxpayers will be paperless next year would have been nice. I did not enjoy printing and mailing a fat stack off to them for our tiny little home business LLC.

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I would be delighted to wear a Beehaw shirt out and about, and I'd love a Beehaw sticker for my laptop. I am happy to contribute labor to making these things happen - please let me know if I can assist in any way. My design skills are mediocre, but I am capable of taking an existing thing and turning it into a format that works for various applications, and I'm familiar with setting up basic online storefronts for print-on-demand etc.

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

novelty comment bots don't bother me much either as long as they're not drowning out actual conversation

Same - honestly, I generally find them legitimately amusing! - but I worry that most Lemmy instances are too young/inactive for this kind of bot yet. I don't think we're past the tipping point where the people commenting will automatically outweigh the bots, and I don't think those bots are fun unless they're dramatically outweighed by normal human interaction. It's not novel if that's all the comment thread ever is, you know what I mean? And novelty is the true spark of humor imho; things usually have to be at least a little surprising to be actually funny.

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The grammar bots were so annoying! I love good grammar as much as anyone, but really, what help are we actually adding to the world with the they're/their/there bots, the your/you're bots, the payed/paid bots, etc. I really can't imagine those changed anyone's behavior or spelling.

[–] the_itsb@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Direct link to Lionir's comment on bots - it's very near your comment in the discussion right now, but adding a link just in case these drift apart.

 

It's been a hot week here in southern Ohio, and since the humans have spent so much time out there building a Poultry Palace, our golden boy Jaskier ("Kiertings" for short 😂) wants to be out there, too - for about 5 minutes, and then the air conditioning appeals more than company. We had gotten kiddie pools to use as brooders for the chicks who have since outgrown them, and this little bog dog knew exactly what to do when we filled it for him. As soon as the coop is done, we're taking a beach day!

Image description: An image collage showing Jaskier, a one-year-old Golden Retriever, happily enjoying the cool water in a royal blue kiddie pool in a shady spot on a lawn. The featured image is of Jaskier smiling and panting while laying down in water that reaches his shoulders, and the other 4 images are a series showing him dipping his face into the water for a drink and coming back up with another smile.

 

I had my first appointment today with a new provider - a nurse practitioner - at the third practice I've tried since getting diagnosed with ADHD in January. I'm kinda reeling from it, and I'm trying to make sense of my feelings, because idk if I'm just sensitive because I'm unmedicated for the third day in a row (didn't know if I'd get a refill today, trying to conserve what I had) or if it's a bad fit or if it's just new provider weirdness or what.

Brief history - first provider was through an online practice, couldn't get the Rx filled. Second provider was local, was a truly wonderful fit with fantastic rapport, but she was starting a new practice and ran into problems with state rules regarding prescribing and had to transfer my care back to the online practice. Third provider, again through the online practice, was very perfunctory and disinterested, gave a refill but needed an in-person referral to continue due to federal rules regarding prescribing, so I transferred to this third practice.

The nurse practitioner I saw today was mostly kind but asked a couple questions that hurt my feelings but probably shouldn't have - "Are you always like this??" at one point 😂🤦😭 yes, yes I am - and seemed disinterested anytime I got very deep into any elaboration. I figured out once I got home that he had already viewed the big huge document I shared outlining my symptoms/experience and why I was seeking help, so that's why he seemed impatient with my blathering, though I do wish he had come out and just said that.

Idk what I'm looking for. Experiences, commiseration, validation, anything vaguely resembling relating to any of this - I'm feeling like a real weirdo right now. Like, I understand I'm not neurotypical, that's why I was there seeking help, but it's been a while since I felt it so thoroughly after a conversation, especially when I guess I went in there hoping to come out feeling at least a little understood. Maybe he's not a good fit, or maybe my super awesome experience with that second practitioner has skewed my expectations?

What is your relationship like with your care provider(s)? What kind do you see? How long have you been seeing them? Have you seen others? What were those relationships like?

Anything you feel like sharing after reading this will probably help me.

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