Autism

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Fancy_Philosopher696 on 2024-10-06 09:17:58+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/ineedhelpasap4 on 2024-10-06 05:22:01+00:00.

I've been on fall break and omg have I been bored I need to know what to do when bored

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Prestigious-Part-697 on 2024-10-06 05:20:25+00:00.

I am NOT saying we are lesser!

What I’m saying is, now that I know I’m on the spectrum, this is all starting to make sense. I had crying and near hysteria filled episodes to my mother when I was continuously unloved by my romantic interested over the years. I dedicated so much time to the dating craft and was begging some high power to tell me what I was doing wrong.

I can now see why I was so unbearably unattractive to all the girls I fell in love with. All the painful awkwardness and all the hyper fixations. No matter how hard I tried I stayed either invisible or just friends with every girl I crushed on.

The story has a happy ending. I’m now 28 and married to my wife who is also on the spectrum. But I think I now have my answer as to why I was unlovable for all those years.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/XSummerRoseX on 2024-10-06 03:44:17+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/VargFrenAtLIDL on 2024-10-06 02:15:14+00:00.

I love Bill Cipher with a burning passion and a lot of people hate him :((( I also love the human characters from Looney Tunes who the whole fandom hates, especially a certain one. Same goes for Tweety, used to love him but the whole fandom hates him.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/joeraoiv- on 2024-10-05 22:24:47+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Temporary_Bowl526 on 2024-10-05 21:38:53+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/HateeSoophie on 2024-10-05 19:58:26+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Fun_Desk_4345 on 2024-10-05 21:30:46+00:00.

It just occurred to me that this might be an autistic thing. I always need to look them up.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/amarie_art on 2024-10-05 21:02:44+00:00.

Only ranting on this particular space because it’s surprisingly not as bad as others. But many autistic spaces, I feel, are turning into weird, “morally superior” echo chambers… I saw a video saying that most NT people make friends for ulterior motives… like yeah, maybe a lot do… but a lot also just enjoy human connection… It’s so much of people acting like autistic people are the only ones that are real and genuine, and treating everyone else like calculating supervillains.

I’m not even trying to jump at the defense of neurotypical people, I just think this mindset is unhealthy. We are not superior because of our autism. We can do bad things. We can have ulterior motives. We’re human beings with nuance… We’re not susceptible from doing questionable things just because we don’t understand social norms as well as most people. And non-autistic people can also have a soul, believe it or not. Crazy concept, I know.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/CapAccomplished8072 on 2024-10-05 20:30:42+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Ela239 on 2024-10-05 18:41:32+00:00.

ETA - In case anyone is interested, here is a link to the actual code for Utah. And I’ve included a couple of excerpts below. This is NOT just some anonymized data being used for ‘public health’ purposes!

‘Diagnostic, treatment or educational facilities which provide specialized care or individualized education programs for ASD and related disorders shall report or cause to report the following to the Department within thirty days of making an ASD diagnosis or special education classification for autism or other disabilities related to autism:

(1) patient's name;

(2) patient's date of birth;

(3) patient's address;

(4) home phone;

(5) patient's sex;

(6) mother's name;

(7) mother's date of birth;

(8) provider name;

(9) provider degree;

(10) provider specialty;

(11) provider address;

(12) provider phone number;

(13) diagnosis of autistic disorder, atypical autism, pervasive developmental disorder-not otherwise specified, Asperger's syndrome, or special education classification which makes the individual eligible to receive special education services; and

(14) date of diagnosis.’

‘Upon Department request, qualified professionals and diagnostic, treatment or educational facilities which provide specialized care or individualized education programs for ASD and related disorders shall allow the Department or its agents to review medical and educational records of individuals with ASD, intellectual disability, and related disorders to clarify duplicate names and to collect demographic characteristics, medical and educational histories, and assessments.’

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Not sure if this is common knowledge, but health care providers in seven states in the US (Delaware, Indiana, New Jersey, North Dakota, Rhode Island, Utah, West Virginia) are required to report their autistic clients to the state, where the names will be stored in a database. The states can then access those peoples’ medical records at any time without their permission.

This is for real, not some dystopian future! I’ve included a post about it from a psychologist who won’t give official diagnoses to people in some of those states because of the danger. I’ve also included a link to a petition to enlist the ACLU in getting rid of these horrific policies. (Just FYI, New Hampshire is listed on the petition, but they thankfully changed their policy.)

If you’re up for it, please take a moment to check this out and add your name to the petition!

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PETITION - ?

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Tough-Cup-7753 on 2024-10-05 11:00:43+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/ChubbySelkie on 2024-10-05 20:04:22+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Odd-Ability-4276 on 2024-10-05 18:31:51+00:00.

Why are ppl so dumb? It looks like a shark tooth so I got him one to stop him from chewing on his shirts when he gets nervous and his aunt said "that's what the retarded kids use he doesn't need one" full knowing I'm autistic. I calmly explained how uneducated she sounded so he didn't learn the behavior and copy her. What a moron. I'm still blown away by her ignorance. How are ppl so behind the times and what's their whole deal? Do they kick puppies too in their spare time? Somebody break it down for me because I'm too retarded to understand dumbasses.

End rant. 😑

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/siaiix on 2024-10-05 17:31:44+00:00.

Hi,

Im writing this as my sister an I are barricaded in our rooms from my 16 year old brother. He’s not diagnosed with Autism, but when we go to the hospital the first thing every person asks is “is he autistic”.

He has the mannerisms and the behaviors (and more) when we compare to other videos and behaviors of autistic persons. When my mother tried to get him a diagnosis and they gaslit her and said she was “just spoiling him”. He only got an ODD diagnosis.

If the fact that he doesn’t have a an official diagnosis puts you off, please don’t read this. I’m stressed enough.

My mom died in 2020. We’re poor so we couldn’t afford the legal fees to become official legal guardians. But we’ve been caring for him all this time. He lives with my sister and I. Today I am at my Witt’s end.

We’re low on food (going when I get paid) and my brother wants eggs to eat. We said we can’t give him any. He went straight into fight mode, and my sister and I had to flee the kitchen and go to our rooms. When my sister got to her room, he stuck his foot in the door and kept trying to open it over and over again.

The only thing that stops him is when she teaches a live class, so she played a recording of a previous class. That got him to stop. Currently he is in the living room coloring in silence. He never does anything in silence. He’s listening and waiting for her to stop.p so he can confront her again.

He refuses to eat unless we get him eggs. He hasn’t eaten all morning and won’t take any alternatives.

In the last 3 months we’ve had 2 hospitalizations for him. The first they sent him home, the second they wanted to keep him temporarily but said they weren’t sure they could find a facility for him so my sister and I would have to stay at the hospital for days until they had a place for him and we weren’t allowed to leave because he’s a minor.

My sister doesn’t drive. We have pets. We have jobs. We can’t stay at the hospital with him for days on end until they find a facility. We can’t even take shifts with him because my sister doesn’t drive. So we took him home.

For the last 3 months we’ve been calling agency after agency for mental health care. No one will take us. They say they don’t treat kids like him, they say they don’t prescribe medication, they say he has to consent even as a minor to the mental health care.

We are at a dead end.

My sister is 5’4 110lbs and I’m 5’5 130lbs. My brother is almost 6’ and over 200 lbs. he fractured both my legs 3 months ago and I’m still healing from his last episode.

We’ve called the cops and all they can do is take him to the hospital. We’ve taken him to the hospital and they usually just send him home.

He’s going to kill us. My death will be because my brother didn’t have eggs for breakfast. (This is not part of his routine)

And no one will help us.

We applied for legal aid to get guardianship, they are not taking cases where I live. When we go to the hospital no one has any help or answers for us. The numbers they give us say they have a waitlist or can’t so anything but talk to him. He can’t be TALKED to he’s completely unreasonable.

We have no idea what to do. Sometimes we have to hide the knives and scissors for fear he’ll use the, on us one day. He’s going to kill us.

We don’t know what to do. Advice?

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/rr770 on 2024-10-05 16:18:43+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Necessary_Version791 on 2024-10-05 15:57:04+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/UncleVolk on 2024-10-05 15:18:33+00:00.

I don't know if it's an autistic thing, but I know autism makes you perceive relationships differently, so I'll post this here and see if some of you relate.

I just don't get it. I see people as people, and I don't believe in separate categories and labels, only in some sort of bonding spectrum. There's people I dislike, then people I'm indifferent to, then people I like, people I really like, and so on. A partner to me is someone that I like as much as you can like someone, just one step beyond a best friend.

To me "partner" is not some sort of unique title like "King". A King plays a specific role, and if he loses his crown he becomes a nobody. That's how romantic relationships seem to work. Two strangers get to know each other a bit, have sex, and suddenly they're partners. Then they might break up and they never see each other again. Any attempt to be friends will be seen as a bad thing. How? Why? I. Don't. Get it. (Edit: this of course doesn't include toxic or abusive relationships).

If I love someone and we can't be partners, I'd like us to be best friends. Like, seriously. We might need time to get over feelings, that's fine. But just getting rid of each other like that? How on Earth is that the normal thing to do? They turn a stranger into the most important person in their lives, and then stranger again? How does that make any sense?

I try give people a role of importance in my life proportional to the bond I have with them. Intimacy and friendship are a spectrum, a partern is just top tier intimacy and friendship. Before dating we have to be friends, and if we break up I still want you in my life as long as it doesn't hurt us. Everything else is social construct bullcrap to me.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/cronussimp on 2024-10-05 15:07:09+00:00.

Something I've found recently as I've become what's classed as a "young adult" is that I dress a lot different than everyone else. In that I don't particularly fit in an "alternative subculture" and that usually, my outfits are a mish-mash of things I'm fixated on. For example I recently got a cropped denim jacket, current major interest is dragon ball z, so I've bought a capsule Corp patch so my jacket looks like one from the show.

I dress "normal" for special occasions, formal events, ect. like I have a random assortment of clothes for events so I fit in. I was only recently diagnosed in the past few years and was just kind of wondering if anyone else experienced this.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Infinite_Koala3915 on 2024-10-05 14:19:00+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/girlenteringtheworld on 2024-10-05 13:36:57+00:00.

When my family is home, I find it extremely difficult to start cleaning, and stay motivated. But if my family leaves for 15-30 minutes, I can make a room or two completely spotless. Even if all of the dishes are piled up, I can still manage to breeze through them in that time.

It feels almost like the energy it takes to start cleaning is lower when they aren't home.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/GlitchPawz on 2024-10-05 15:15:46+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Turbulent-Garage-141 on 2024-10-05 14:40:29+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/oy_oy_nametaken_2 on 2024-10-05 14:37:12+00:00.