Transmasc

sometimes i feel like my mannerisms are too girly/unpassable even though im a guy (a trans one or under the umbrella like the community im posting in), like i know it doesn't mean anything, but someone told someone they wouldn't pass as male if they used emojis like 😭 or ☺️ even though my bf uses them all the time. idk, i know im a guy and there's nothing wrong with femininity, but still, this is a lil rant i guess

i always try to affirm other people’s gender and accept all people. however, this one person who harassed me, i blocked and can’t ask them directly. they used to be known as a girl named emma but they then said they were a guy with he/him pronouns named ethan. however, they then said that they were a troll and that they weren’t really a boy, even though they changed their snapchat avatar to a boy according to my fiancé who saw their profile and blocked them subsequently.

i’m using they for now but i will call them ethan whenever referring to them because that’s what their display name stated.

i’m still learning btw, don’t be rude pls 😓

Maybe some sort of hero who can save his princess (my gf) from danger? Hmm...

When I was 8 years old (I also have autism), I was different from the other girls. Not just because of my autism, but because I didn’t want to be like a girl. I was convinced that secretly, I had male parts. I could be like the strong, tough boys I saw. I didn’t want to be feminine and “put on makeup like a girl”.

I got my hair cut short and I was so happy. I looked like a boy. I would enjoy feminine stuff, like playing with dolls and wearing dresses, but I wanted to be like I thought my dad was: a tough, strong guy.

When I was 10 or 11, the feeling happened again. I wanted to be like my favorite make characters. A cool rockstar. I wanted to use he/him pronouns. My girlfriend at the time didn’t like that, but we broke up and we were both immature and toxic to each other at that age.

I didn’t mind wearing a binder, which I did when I was 12 with my dress. I forgot why.

I was trans as a teenager until I detransitioned one day because my girlfriend at the time was mean to me for it, along with this guy I was friends with.

At age 15-16, I started to use he/they pronouns, and started to identify as a bi, then straight nonbinary transmasc.

Starting when I was 17, I was more of a nonbinary fem type.

Now, I’m probably nonbinary but I’ve been identifying as a woman because it’s what most people see me as, but I’m questioning.

Am I feminine? Am I a woman? I showed signs of wanting to be a boy, am I transmasc? I know many trans people wanted to be the opposite gender as a kid.

right now, i feel more transmasc and like a guy with he/him pronouns named viktor. can you try it out on me so i can “taste” it? thanks!!!

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/27212381

We created a new community for all Trans and Queer people to ask and answer more personal and intimate questions! Hope this helps!

!tquad@lemmy.blahaj.zone

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/27207610

Is there a community here that's more appropriate for trans/queer folks to ask and answer more personal and intimate questions? If not would y'all like one created?

i know everyone knows it’s pride month but i like celebrating it as a transmasc enby :) 🏳️‍⚧️

Be sure to hit ‘Continue thread’ each time when you get to it, it continues further than Bluesky loads! I found the whole thing very thoughtful and knowledgeable.

Hi, I am a 16 year old trans guy. I have been out of the closet for around 2 years now, but I never told my grandparents, because I was scared how they would treat me afterwards and think of me. I think I would not be as scared to come out to my grandparents if not my sister and I were trans. I think it kinda might prove their a little conservative mindset (please do not take this offensive. I mean that they might think that ThE TrAnSgEnDeR SpReAdS or smt).

Rn is my mom at my grandparents house and is going to tell them in the next two days, about me and my sister. I am really anxious. I am scared that they may not take it well or not understand it. How should I cope with this?

Thanks for reading :)

(Sorry, if my English isn't perfect, English isn't my first language)

Ralph was a mixed race guy who was living as a husband to a woman named Mamie in 1906, but eventually took a liking to a gal named Dorothy and decided to get proper married. Wisconsin had a eugenics test (eugenics was hella popular in the US - that’s where the Nazis learned it from) you had to take before you got married.

Ralph passed the blood test with zero problems, and got legally married to Dorothy. Mamie got jealous, and then outed him to the authorities.

I’ve been reading True Sex: The Lives of Trans Men at the Turn of the 20th Century. We have always been here.

got my consult for FMS recently and i was told something interesting: apparently, if i hadn't used braces to straighten my bite, we could have done surgery to bring the jaw forward (and improve my jaw/chin), instead of doing an implant (which i will now have to do)

kind of hit me like a "how the fuck was i supposed to know", but maybe this advice will come in handy for one of y'all

Okay so. Not sure if it's an age thing, or a hormone thing, or a me thing...

I'm post hysto + oorpho (not due to transition but cancer scare) and I've been on hormones for a few years now. Late 20s.

I CAN'T HANDLE SPICY FOOD ANYMORE. I was okayish with peppers and ginger before. Now my mouth explodes if I even get a whiff of the stuff.

Anyone else have changes?

(If you find the post's author I'll be very glad)

#trans #transmasc

@ftm

What kind of trans masc/men problems should be talked about more?

Hi again, seems like today or yesterday was transmasc visibility day, ironically though I couldn't find any info about it on DuckDuckGO browser.

I know that researches about transmasculine people are almost nonexistent or not so easily accessed on web, especially in Russian spaces, so that's why I have a very little neocities page I and my family run for Russian audience. But we're people too, can get exhausted and run out of ideas, so use this post as an outlet for your frustrations with lack of visibility and maybe I will pick some ideas for articles out of it.

For example, I mentioned lack of information in queer Russian spaces. How many articles about bottom growth (very common thing for those on T) was there in Russian? *None.* Thankfully there are plenty of articles about bottom growth in English, so all we had to do is to translate, but that's still a frustrating fact. None of the Russian trans NGOs tackled it neither, afaik

@ftm

It does feel lonely on fedi as trans guy

Not just as trans guy, but also the one who isn't that much interested in tech (I can learn something for my amateur website, but that's it).

It's also kinda interesting that I used to have even some aversion to learning tech due to family trauma (don't force your own goals on your kids) and misogyny in IT spaces, which makes makes it a bit harder to have joy in learning it (and also it's fucking hard, I need explanations like I'm 5 or I won't understand). Though among my all-transmasc family members I'm still the one most interested in IT, LOL.

And basically that's why I find bluesky more appealing to me lately, simply because I see variety of interests and more transmascs. If I see memes and shitposts in trans communities on fedi, they're oriented mostly to transfems into tech (which I don't mind at all, I'm just not the target audience). Despite all of that, I will continue to actively use fedi at least to be the one who makes some variety here :D

@ftm

[CW: misogyny] First experience with misogynistic men

I'd like to post about one time when I somehow passed enough as a guy, even though I didn't bind and overall was dressed more "ambiguously". It was a taxi driver that was talking to me about women being an objects for sex as if I'd relate. I tried to argue, but overall I have learned defensive mechanism to laugh at uncomfortable situations. Friend told me after that situation that men in general don't have to laugh if something others have said sucks ass, because men are more allowed to disagree, so I guess I have to unlearn some stuff to deal with it better.

In general, I hate the fact that the more you pass the more comfortable cis men are with saying disgusting shit about women around you, especially since I did (and still am) go through misogyny. I hope I'll be able to deal with it better in a future.

If you have any tips, I'd be glad to hear, this situation definitely made me use only public transport if possible for a while 😭

@ftm

My gender therapist told me this in response to something I said referencing my chest. It was a while ago but it's stuck with me. I'm wondering what you all think of this comment? The comment felt disqualifying, like I was less male for calling my chest a "breast", or I would be seen as less male because of it, but I can be pretty sensitive so I might be overthinking and she might be right that men don't talk like that.

Hey y'all,

I'm looking for more mods on this community. I haven't been super active because of school and I want to make sure there's other people looking out for this community in addition to myself.

Requirements:

-Must have a post history either with this community or related ones on this instance

-Must be trans

-Be transmasc (optional, but preferred)

I'm an older transguy and "pass" very well but I'm considering detransition due to the dangers of the world. I'm in the US and it's no secret that trans people are being targeted. I've been considering if it would be worthwhile to stop testosterone, don a wig, and play dress-up as a woman until this trans witch hunt is over.

I'm solid in my identity, not depressed or panicked. I've been in many dangerous situations in my life and know how it feels to make decisions strictly for survival. I know I can withstand detransitioning temporarily or permanently if needed. Not being on T and dressing a certain way won't make my identity any less true or valid.

I'm at the age where I really don't care what my outer appearance is or how people perceive me as long as I'm safe.

I could use some feedback from the kind folks here, especially any older transguys.

Disclaimer: no part of this is meant to imply that there is a right or better path for my other trans bros, sisters, and siblings. There is no right way to be your true self beyond what you deem it.

cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/18135870

A great video about both getting hormones and blockers and how to safely use them if you want or have to do it DIY.

I have been working towards losing enough weight to get my top surgery from a specific surgeon with many years of experience with it. I have successfully lost the weight, but now I'm at a point where I can't afford to get it. It costs about $8700 for it and that's without complications or revisions. Top surgery for me doesn't just mean gender affirmation. It means having an easier time breathing and reduced back pain. I desperately want this. So much so that it feels like a need. I just don't know what to do to get that much money with everything I already have to work for.

cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/17983418

A great video about how cis people should stop playing trans characters especially if the actor is the gender they are transitioning from not to.

cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/17883633

Title really says it all, warning for mentions of 'crossdressing' etc and disliking labels.

I transitioned ages ago and I'm recently out of a long term relationship. I've been trying to get back into dating, but even when I specify "masc for masc" all of the gay guys I meet are too feminine for my taste. I've been feeling a bit doomed, even sometimes questioning if I should have transitioned in the first place because it would be so easy to find an ideal partner if I hadn't, but the idea of being anyone but my true self is preposterous. Can any other guys relate to this? Any dating tips or specific dating app recommendations?

USA if it helps.