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"Men don't say 'breast'" (lemmy.world)

submitted 5 months ago by JayJLeas@lemmy.world to c/ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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My gender therapist told me this in response to something I said referencing my chest. It was a while ago but it's stuck with me. I'm wondering what you all think of this comment? The comment felt disqualifying, like I was less male for calling my chest a "breast", or I would be seen as less male because of it, but I can be pretty sensitive so I might be overthinking and she might be right that men don't talk like that.

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[–] troyunrau@lemmy.ca 1 points 5 months ago

Locker room version: men will say nipple without any issue when talking about the nipple itself, or chest or pecks if talking about the fleshy bits behind said nipple. If someone is a bit overweight they might call them man-boobs, moobs, or similar. Usually it's gentle ribbing rather than intended offense, but sometimes it is intended to be a bit cruel depending on the tone. I have never heard a man refer to their "breast" in any context.

If you ask a man if they have breasts, you will get 99% "no" as the answer. You can't refer to a body part you don't have.

I might be in a bubble though. Hope this helps.

[–] drspod@lemmy.ml 1 points 5 months ago

You are a man and you said "breast" so by definition, men say "breast."

[–] grue@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

Cis guy here. I would agree with her and interpret it as friendly advice to help you pass as one of the guys. About the only context in which I can imagine calling a guy's chest a "breast" would be, IDK, if I were doing some melodramatic Shakespearian/ren faire "ye olde" speak, or something silly like that.

'Course, I wasn't there, so maybe there was something about the tone or context that would imply a less favorable interpretation -- YMMV.