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How to avoid an argument with antisemite you're living with? (hexbear.net)
submitted 3 months ago by YourMom@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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Staying with my mom for a couple months before I do this study abroad thing. She is obsessed with George Soros, but not other billionaires. Keeps saying things that are halfway antisemitic tropes, but let's be real. She's super religious and thinks some things about jews she's afraid to say.

Today was the classic, "paid protestors" where she kept going on and on. Showed me a fake job listing and a christian blog post as proof. I said that's not proof, so agree to disagree right?

How would y'all handle this? Do I just give up on refuting this crap? I have a lot of jewish friends, and this shit really drives my anger/anxiety through the roof, so I do not think I can just have a rational convo. But I also don't wanna sit next to racist crap being spewed and say nothing.

I could find another living situation, but it's like an hour away from where all my friends/other fam live and I have already asked these people for a ton of favors.

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[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 12 points 3 months ago

i don't know if it's advice, because i don't know if i endorse it, but in my life when i've been in those situations i just grit my teeth and get through the time that i am stuck there. i would be out of the house as much as possible during non-waking hours, hanging with friends or in those rare free, public places where one can read a book without being disturbed or treated as loitering or trespassing.

i used to do that a lot in bookstores. those like kinda corporate strip mall ones that had random chairs in the back. a lot of those are gone, but sometimes they have a cafe where i would get the cheapest drink and nurse it for 2 hours with free water refills. treated it kind like a library, would put i book i was reading back but in a weird place so i could get it again. no fees, longer hours, open on weekends lol. i read a lot of books doing that over a period of years.