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So, I'm currently dating someone, and it's my first time dating. I was a kissless virgin before this but I’m not kissless anymore ^^. Anyway, we get along really well, sharing a lot of interests and similar views. They're a "newer" lefty, but they have a good head on their shoulders and are open to learning. We’re really excited about each other. We've talked a lot over voice chat, had three dates so far, and exchange a bit of daily texting. At this point, I'm pretty sure we're going to become a couple, maybe even for a longer time.

Today is our 4th date, but I do not intend to tell them I love them because I'm not really sure how love feels. I definitely feel attraction, and it seems very mutual. I guess my question is: When do I tell someone I love them, and how do I know when I truly love them?

Im asking because this is literally my 1st time dating and I have never been involved in anything romantic.

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[–] SacredExcrement@hexbear.net 4 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

It's great to be excited, but as others have alluded to, you want to be certain yourself that it isn't just the heady joy of someone also being romantically interested in you

Usually 2ish months is adequate to determine if it really is love; if you're still getting butterflies in your stomach at that point, you can be more sure of it