this post was submitted on 27 Aug 2024
56 points (100.0% liked)

askchapo

22821 readers
162 users here now

Ask Hexbear is the place to ask and answer ~~thought-provoking~~ questions.

Rules:

  1. Posts must ask a question.

  2. If the question asked is serious, answer seriously.

  3. Questions where you want to learn more about socialism are allowed, but questions in bad faith are not.

  4. Try !feedback@hexbear.net if you're having questions about regarding moderation, site policy, the site itself, development, volunteering or the mod team.

founded 4 years ago
MODERATORS
 

I consistently have this issue where I legit cannot tell if someone is being snarky or mean it just bounces right off. Then i spend ages wondering if a certain phrase was meant to be an underhanded insult or not or what the subtext was supposed to be.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] WhatDoYouMeanPodcast@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago

Relatedly I have a hard time with people trying to do a gotcha! to be dismissive. I remember a moment where a lib asked "why don't you just go live in Russia, then?" For them in their world, that's like a final judgement - you clearly don't care about this DEMOKKKRACY so FUCK OFF. It simply didn't have that connotation for me and I missed the perception check so I was left wanting for discourse going "but Russia is yucky blah blah blah" when the conversation had already ended.

I chalk it up to them being a dweeby weirdo who relies on the luxury of some sort of strength/assumption instead of learning to communicate. Usually life, fate, and time have a way of frustrating them for doing so, therefore I just try to associate with people who value clear communication.