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So, here, there's a constant jockeying for clout, you can watch a group of guys reinforce their social structure. An interaction might go like this:
Guy 1: I'm interested in topic X, it is new to me but I find it enriching and I hope you do too Guys 2-5: This is actually terrible, and you're an idiot for thinking this might be good and that we'd enjoy it. And this happens almost constantly regardless of whether the group actually goes with topic X as an activity.
It's an almost constant stream of belittlement and humiliation from all parties, regardless of whether there is any camaraderie or friendship. It is really exhausting, but I've noticed I've reflexively done it.
Thank you for the clear explanation, this is something I have observed too. Very antisocial culture especially amongst men.
I'm sure I could think of a specific example, but my brain is fried