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everyone on this site seems to struggle with irl social interaction and let me tell you being able to do basic sports talk is like playing the socialization game on easy mode
Yeah the site has a sizable neurodiverse community and we have spent all our lives being made to justify to others why we don't just "be normal."
I'm on the spectrum, the spectrum isn't aligned against sports except under some archaic jock/nerd viewpoint. I know of at least a few big athletes that are out about being on the spectrum. Lots of special interest material to be found. Many sports, especially rock climbing & BJJ, that pair very well with neuroatypical makeup due to the huge depth of techniques to be learned.
Okay but what if sports aren't one of my special interests
I mean I enjoyed parkour back when I was in the right environment for it but the average prole I'm meant to appeal to probably doesn't know or care much about parkour
I would say that is fine, and was the case for me for a long time too, but don't foreclose yourself to the idea that it could be one of your interests in the future.
You are right. But like, 'learning to do sportstalk' to help with 'socialization' (especially at work) doesn't make me like sports. If anything, I kinda makes me think its dumber.
But yeah, sports, beers/alcohol, guns, hunting, all classic 'guy talk' I'm decently good at, despite none being things I'm really into.
Me: the expectation to do sports talk is a toxic cultural expectation of the patriarchy to enforce gender role confirmity.
You: just do basic sports talk bro, it'll be easier for you
I don't struggle with that. The idea that people who aren't into sports are socially awkward is yet another toxic trope.
That's pretty presumptive of you, and even if it wasn't, it sounds a bit like concern trolling and that's not cool. What must be done to be "normal" and why must it typically involve marginalizing marginalized people further, if not outright self-harm?
I submit that if you ever meet somebody from the global south or any kind of actually proletarian class, the singular thing it would be possible to talk to & bond with them over, if language is shared, is sports.