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The ETR 600 is a class of trains built by Alstom, and are used on the routes between Roma-Bolzano and Roma-Trieste. The train tilts, using Pendolino technology, allowing higher speeds to be maintained through corners without causing discomfort to passengers. The trains are operated by Trenitalia, originally under the Frecciargento (Silver Arrow) branding used for trains capable of travelling between 250 km/h and 285 km/h, In 2022 they were rebranded under Frecciarossa (Red Arrow) after the Frecciargento branding was retired.

The ETR 600 has also been adapted for use in China as the China Railway CRH5 Hexie. Initially 60 sets were ordered, of which nine were manufactured by Alstom and 51 by CNR Changchun Railway Vehicles. Since, another 80 sets have been created for a total of 140, operating across China's north from Beijing to Ürümqi.


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[–] Luna@hexbear.net 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

spoilerYeah, I have the mirror issue as well. I'll just become whoever I'm with most of the time, and it results in me being unhappy. It's something I got a bit better with, but now everybody I adjusted to is gone, and it seems to reset based on the person. So, I go to work, which is mostly guys, and I am practically mute, to the point where they comment on the fact I only talk when I need to. I really don't want to end up mirroring them, but it does slip. I think it's because my mind believes that being a chameleon (what I've always called it) makes interactions go smoother.

Also, those feelings of wanting to be vulnerable with someone, even if it's just a close friend, have been hitting me really hard since transition. Like, I've been numb so many things up for so many years, and now I'm feeling so much, and I want to share that with someone. Loneliness hits much harder for me now, and I feel it often. I worry I'll never have someone like that, because I've never even had anybody I could be close with. I've been more distant with my friends than most people are, now that I think about it. Makes it really hard to establish any sort of new connection...

Sorry for the long response, I just know how you feel and relate to what you said. I'm hoping that things get better for you :cat-trans:

[–] rtstragedy@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

spoilerI responded to lilypad a bit too ... but I wanted to say something to your second paragraph if you don't mind...

Also, those feelings of wanting to be vulnerable with someone, even if it's just a close friend, have been hitting me really hard since transition. Like, I've been numb so many things up for so many years, and now I'm feeling so much, and I want to share that with someone. Loneliness hits much harder for me now, and I feel it often. I worry I'll never have someone like that, because I've never even had anybody I could be close with. I've been more distant with my friends than most people are, now that I think about it. Makes it really hard to establish any sort of new connection...

I'm going through this right now - I have been unearthing some stuff in therapy, discovering what it actually means to be ND and how much I was masking and how complicated things are for me under the surface, so even though I transitioned a while ago it feels like a rebirth for me too. I wish I had a formula I could share for easing that loneliness, but I decided that online people can be Potential Friends, too, and that made it easier, as well (I'm not as well spoken IRL lol).

Sometimes I wonder how many people out there really are like me fr fr, the kind of people I can talk to for hours at a time until it's late at night about one of 80 things we have in common. I'm a lot of things: trans, AuDHD (probably), newly vegan, too old for school, communist, demisexual (probably), non-binary, interested in hi-fi, old games, tech, some very specific kinds of music, programming, queer theory, and people and the ways they think... It should make it easier, but I'm not sure I'd get along with someone who wasn't most of these things with me, which makes it difficult. And being close friends with NTs seems right out for me, I'm probably not really even going to try that...

I wish I had a formula I could share for finding people, but it feels more like luck and chance... for instance, I met my partner at work years ago, after giving up on relationships entirely for a couple years... how would I have found him, otherwise? I have no idea...But I now know it is possible, not just to find romantic partners, but intense platonic ones as well. That's all I can really offer: it is possible.

I do have a moment with each new relationship (regardless of type) where I need to decide whether or not I really wanted to Try, you know? Like, I had to shut up all the parts in me, and say "yeah this could go badly and I could get hurt... but I want to try anyway." I think that was the hardest part. Being willing to be authentic and allowing myself to feel positive emotions in front of new people, despite all the hurt, ghosting, rejection, bullying, blatant transphobia, etc. in my past.

[–] Luna@hexbear.net 4 points 1 week ago

Thanks for you response, it means a lot meow-hug