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In October 1776, the Public Universal Friend contracted an epidemic disease and was bedridden and near death with a high fever. Their family summoned a doctor from Attleboro, six miles away, and neighbors kept up a death-watch at night. The fever broke after several days. The Friend later reported that [deadname redacted] had died, receiving revelations from God through two archangels who proclaimed there was "Room, Room, Room, in the many Mansions of eternal glory for Thee and for everyone". The Friend further said that [deadname redacted]'s soul had ascended to heaven and the body had been reanimated with a new spirit charged by God with preaching his word, that of the "Publick Universal Friend", describing that name in the words of Isaiah 62:2 as "a new name which the mouth of the Lord hath named".

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[–] sneak100@hexbear.net 12 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

sex stuffso if I can't really imagine being comfortable having sex with someone before getting to know them a little bit, does that make me demi? I can imagine a hypothetical scenario in which I'm in a vetted space and might have sex with someone spontaneously, but I'd have to know a lot about the vetting process and be at ease with it in my mind, or maybe I would even need to know and personally trust the people doing the vetting. I guess it kinda feels like I don't really relate to not being able to feel sexual attraction to someone without an emotional connection, but rather, in a world such as this, I don't see a situation in which I wouldn't want that as a way to protect myself from chuddery. So using the demi label might make sense in a practical sense? Kinda like how I might not only like women, but find lesbian umbrella a comfortable place to exist right now (actually it's a bit different, since I actually actively crave connections with women, who I feel like I've been unfairly socially segregated from my whole life, but I hope the comparison makes sense).

I guess I can also imagine having more casual sex in a world where people are much more open and wear their hearts on their sleeve, but that's pretty antithetical to the imperial core, especially neurotypical culture. Also I'm not sure what level of heart-on-sleeveyness would make that happen for me, so maybe that's not a thing lol (might be a healing writing exercise though haha). Idk, any thoughts on this would be interesting to hear.

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 6 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

use whatever labels you are comfortable using.

we use demi because we think it describes us best.

sexuality cant truly be expressed with labels, and thats okay.

[–] anchoress@hexbear.net 8 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

responceSeems like the demisexual label would be useful for you, so I would go for it if I was in your situation.

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 7 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

(actually it's a bit different, since I actually actively crave connections with women, who I feel like I've been unfairly socially segregated from my whole life, but I hope the comparison makes sense).

mood fr fr trans-sad

spoilerit does kinda make you into a demi, but maybe casual sex just isnt for you either? i dunno, i've been calling myself demi-pan for a while now but ultimately i don't think the labels matter that much. Maybe there are some people who you'd like to fuck after only just meeting them and maybe there are other people who you'd need to get to know a whole bunch first. Or maybe you don't want to fuck anyone and just have a romantic relationship with them. Who knows, just do you, girl. cat-trans you don't need to label it, if you don't want to.

[–] sneak100@hexbear.net 6 points 19 hours ago

I guess I'm mostly thinking about just communicating this feeling to others in some sort of succinct way. But yeah I think I also don't have to agonise over it too much if it doesn't exactly fit, I don't have any allegiance to the label or anything