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Hexbear's new head of operations just dropped, and their way of dealing with the fallout of their last struggle session is to hand bans out like candy to their concerned and disillusioned users while throwing out "epic" quips like insecure teenagers along the way coupled with their communication (and seemingly contempt) towards their own userbase which isn't helping their allegations at all and the revelations that were learned about Hexbear's moderators and admins from their most recent struggle session.

The last few days have honestly shaken my faith in Hexbear and their team and I hope the mods and admins at Lemmygrad are monitoring the situation closely.

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[–] multitotal@lemmygrad.ml 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

Fuck off! No one forced anyone to ever post in those threads! Why would you feel imposed upon??

Next paragraph

This shit is why we had those threads too. It really fucking makes the weeds stick out.

LMAO!

Thanks for proving my point better than I ever could.

[–] NewAcctWhoDis@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I scrolled past those threads without interacting and faced absolutely no consequences or criticism for it. There was no expectation to engage, just that you don't engage negatively.

[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I get the feeling they want to engage negativity

[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 4 points 1 week ago

Yeah as much a shitshow everything today has been the way people talk about or criticize TC69 speaks volumes about their intent.

Like mfers we are all very well versed in reactionary dogwhistles. Yall can't just try to slap red paint on them and think you gonna fool us.

[–] multitotal@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I compare it to "mandatory fun time" at work. Many workplaces have a Friday outing where people go drink with their bosses at a bar. It's not mandatory, yet everyone feels like they have to go. They feel that way because going to those events shows you're a team player, because if a round of layoffs/redundancies comes, the bosses will pick those people who don't fit into the "work culture". So despite it not being mandatory, one's presence or absence is noted.

That is what I have a problem with. That and the insistence that it isn't mandatory when it obviously is.

[–] Gribbli@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I aired my complaints about TC69 and her fans here but don't get it twisted, the posts weren't mandatory. The original issue I mentioned was a misunderstanding resulting in a dogpile of a cool person who didn't deserve it, and the causes are not unlike what occurred in this most recent struggle session.

[–] multitotal@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I never said you said it was mandatory, and I didn't mean to imply it. I was merely stating how a daily thread on "I love x" (whatever x is) is a bit weird, that's all. If the hexbear people had a daily "I love communism" thread I'd still think it's weird and I would still think it's mandatory. The pledge of allegiance isn't mandatory, yet the vast majority of kids/students/people in America do it. Why? Standing up for the anthem is not mandatory, yet everyone does it. Did you see the reactions when people didn't stand for the anthem in America? For me it is the same thing. Many things in life are not mandatory but as I have come to find out, they are expected of you.

[–] robinn_@hexbear.net 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

There is no daily thread, there is no expectation, and unlike the pledge of allegiance, you can’t look around and see people sitting down. Someone not posting in a thread doesn’t necessarily mean anything and I dare you to give me one example of anyone facing anything for not posting that they “love [their] trans comrades” ever in the history of the site.

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[–] NewAcctWhoDis@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago

It wasn't mandatory. I was there.

[–] robinn_@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago (14 children)

Except it isn’t. This is all spun out of your head. Try giving the slightest bit of evidence for your point that participation is de-facto mandatory.

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[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

This shit is why we had those threads too. It really fucking makes the weeds stick out.

LMAO!

Thanks for proving my point better than I ever could.

That doesn't prove your point though, if anything this proves his point...

Those threads never FORCED you to post in them, but they sure did bait a lot of people to poke their heads out to out themselves. It was like flytraps for misogyny and transphobia.

[–] robinn_@hexbear.net 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I would genuinely delete your account. Your smugness is so embarrassing. How did you miss the point this obviously? To reiterate what they said, people are not “expected” to publicly affirm anything. They aren’t told to do anything. There is no requirement to post that you “love your trans comrades” like in your Orwell slop. But all this really is no clearer than:

No one forced anyone to ever post in those threads! Why would you feel imposed upon??

What they are saying is not that not posting about “loving your trans comrades” is some indication of treachery, because that isn’t a statement in itself, but that people voluntarily enter these posts and go off against trans people and this weeds them out.

THERE IS NO CONTRADICTION, IN FACT THE SECOND POINT YOU QUOTED FOLLOWS FROM THE FIRST!!!

[–] multitotal@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I would genuinely delete your account.

Luckily you don't have that power. phew

Your smugness is so embarrassing.

Please don't feel embarrassed.

There is no requirement to post that you “love your trans comrades” like in your Orwell slop.

keyword: daily. I already compared it to another social situation where something is also not mandatory, but it is expected.

that people voluntarily enter these posts and go off against trans people and this weeds them out.

So the thread was a ruse, feigning a daily ritual to provoke those who don't belong in revealing themselves, all the while the ritual's true purpose was obvious for those in the know. Totally not a cult. You're so knee-deep into it though that you don't see it, I'm trying to give you an outsider's perspective. Forums that aren't run on the logic of a cult just remove transphobic posts and warn/ban the person who made them.

[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 10 points 1 week ago (31 children)

It's true I didn't say "I love my trans comrades" today and got banned 20000000000,0000,00,00 trillion times! 😱😱😱😭😭😭😭

spoilerI am joking and it's hilarious that I even have to clarify that

[–] mathemachristian@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago

Hexbear went woke 😞

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[–] robinn_@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Please don't feel embarrassed.

Below pedantry.

keyword: daily. I already compared it to another social situation where something is also not mandatory, but it is expected.

It’s not expected. There is no expectation that you must post daily, or ever, that you “love your trans comrades.” You compared it to another social situation, I asked for evidence posting in these threads is taken into account somehow like with that example and you said I was in a cult.

You’re quoting Gribbli for the daily point, but they didn’t literally mean daily. This doesn’t happen daily on like a schedule where you’re expected to post this, or even where anybody posts this. It happens often but if that’s your keyword, your argument is washed. You can access all posts on Hexbear, so tell me where this is posted daily.

So the thread was a ruse, feigning a daily ritual to provoke those who don't belong in revealing themselves, all the while the ritual's true purpose was obvious for those in the know.

It’s not a daily ritual. You know nothing about Hexbear and yet you feel like you can critique the site culture. You’re actually embarrassing yourself. No, the point of people posting that they “love their trans comrades” is both to show support and to make the site’s position clear and turn away/root out any anti-trans users. These aren’t mutually exclusive.

I'm trying to give you an outsider's perspective

You’re an outsider times two. You’re going off the word of another outsider and extrapolating that to spin up this idea that users saying they love their trans comrades is some daily ritual that users will be rewarded for or punished for not completing. You have no clue what you’re talking about.

[–] Gribbli@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Now I feel kinda bad for airing old hexbear semi-drama. Really didn't mean for anyone to try to make a point with it, just wanted to state my own experience :\

[–] DamarcusArt@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 1 week ago

Nah, you didn't do anything wrong. People are responsible for their own actions, not you.

[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

You did nothing wrong

[–] multitotal@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 1 week ago (2 children)

they didn’t literally mean daily.

Well, I wouldn't know.

You know nothing about Hexbear and yet you feel like you can critique the site culture.

This is true.

It’s not a daily ritual.

Not a daily ritual then, but a ritual nonetheless.

to show support and to make the site’s position clear and turn away/root out any anti-trans users. These aren’t mutually exclusive.

Yes, it can be all those things and still be a ritual

Rituals are meaningful actions marked by rigidity, formality, and repetition.

"to show support"

Group rituals promote cognitive, affective, and behavioral group commitment.

"to make the site’s position clear"

Group rituals not only signal commitment (external) but enhance it internally.

"turn away/root out any anti-trans users"

Rituals are a normal part of human life, we have all sorts of rituals. That said, rituals on websites are weird.

that users will be rewarded for or punished for not completing

I never said that. But I will bet you that people who are regulars in those sorts of threads look more favourably on each other. Why are we pretending like I invented the concept of feeling belonging to a group? What I am saying is not controversial. You claim I got it wrong, but then confirm my assumptions, and then you get angry about it.

I am sorry if the word "cult" rubbed you the wrong way, it was hyperbole, I didn't mean to insult anyone. Much like "daily thread" doesn't mean literally daily. I don't mean that you are literally in a cult. Hexbear seems to engage in rituals that strengthen group belonging, I am not making a value judgment wrong or right, I think it's weird and I don't like it.

[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

You know nothing about Hexbear and yet you feel like you can critique the site culture.

This is true.

No investigation, no right to speak.

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[–] robinn_@hexbear.net 4 points 1 week ago

Alright, you wouldn’t know anything about this. Then there’s nothing else to say.

I didn’t confirm your assumptions, I already responded to this. Call it a ritual if you like, I don’t care. Genuinely just semantics. The argument comes in when you say that it’s weird and you “don’t like it” (welcome back Kamala!!).

I never said that. But I will bet you that people who are regulars in those sorts of threads look more favourably on each other.

So? You could say that for any thread. People interact with each other and share viewpoints and form connections. How sinister!! This is not the same as what you said before. You now this.