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LMAO!
Thanks for proving my point better than I ever could.
I scrolled past those threads without interacting and faced absolutely no consequences or criticism for it. There was no expectation to engage, just that you don't engage negatively.
I compare it to "mandatory fun time" at work. Many workplaces have a Friday outing where people go drink with their bosses at a bar. It's not mandatory, yet everyone feels like they have to go. They feel that way because going to those events shows you're a team player, because if a round of layoffs/redundancies comes, the bosses will pick those people who don't fit into the "work culture". So despite it not being mandatory, one's presence or absence is noted.
That is what I have a problem with. That and the insistence that it isn't mandatory when it obviously is.
I aired my complaints about TC69 and her fans here but don't get it twisted, the posts weren't mandatory. The original issue I mentioned was a misunderstanding resulting in a dogpile of a cool person who didn't deserve it, and the causes are not unlike what occurred in this most recent struggle session.
I never said you said it was mandatory, and I didn't mean to imply it. I was merely stating how a daily thread on "I love x" (whatever x is) is a bit weird, that's all. If the hexbear people had a daily "I love communism" thread I'd still think it's weird and I would still think it's mandatory. The pledge of allegiance isn't mandatory, yet the vast majority of kids/students/people in America do it. Why? Standing up for the anthem is not mandatory, yet everyone does it. Did you see the reactions when people didn't stand for the anthem in America? For me it is the same thing. Many things in life are not mandatory but as I have come to find out, they are expected of you.
There is no daily thread, there is no expectation, and unlike the pledge of allegiance, you can’t look around and see people sitting down. Someone not posting in a thread doesn’t necessarily mean anything and I dare you to give me one example of anyone facing anything for not posting that they “love [their] trans comrades” ever in the history of the site.
That is exactly the same argument people use when one tries to explain to a native of a colonialist/imperialist country what it is like to experience discrimination in their country. Btw, I am not making any assumptions about you, I am talking about your argument. They always ask "well, can you prove it? give an example!" and it's like, you can't really prove it because it isn't anything written down or a physical thing you can take a picture of. It's a feeling among people and one that people have, it's what you feel hanging in the air.
Let's ignore the "daily trans thread", here's a different example.
If you see a username on a website for months, that username sometimes writes things you agree with etc., and then a new username comes. You're more inclined to trust the username you have seen around for months, aren't you? If someone asked you who should be a mod, you'd pick the username you know better. If someone asks you why, you'd explain it "I just know that person" or "I know them better". And that is what it is about, knowing someone better.
As you, correctly said, not posting in the thread gives no information at all. But posting in it, signals to you that that person is pro- whatever you are pro-, and from then on you know the person a bit better (we're assuming honesty and genuine expression here). So if ever a time comes when you have to choose, either vote for, or take a side in an argument, or help, or whatever, and all things being equal, it comes down to the fact that you will choose the person who you've seen posting in that thread over a person who you haven't.