I'm getting really fucking weary of seeing sentiments like, "being upset about someone scheduling a non-emergency dental appointment in the middle of the second largest covid wave is deranged" or "you're a selfish asshole for expecting your loved ones to do the bare fucking minimum to protect you" in discussions on masking or vaccine uptake

I know I'm not the only one disappointed in the growing anomie. Maybe we should operate more like c/vegan where everything from omnivore apologia to overt antiveganism (analogous to the above anti-precaution/anti-max/anti-vax-apologia) is forbidden, and posting/commenting as much gets you a ban?

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[–] a_blanqui_slate@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I don't know what liberalism is even supposed to mean in this context; surely any sort of Marxist or materialist analysis would tend to put the blame on the systemic forces shoving people into the orphan juicing machine, not on the individuals navigating the systems incompetently.

[–] dat_math@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

~~You~~ Someone else was deliberately undermining evidence-based precautionary advice regarding vaccines and masking, despite, apparently possessing the knowledge and tools to see that what you were dispensing was at best merely dismissive of individual efforts towards harm reduction in their own lives, and at its worst, simply harmful advice.

To be aware of one's own mistakes and yet make no attempt to correct them, taking a liberal attitude towards oneself. This is an eleventh type.

edited: sorry, I'm losing my mind and conflated you with another user

[–] a_blanqui_slate@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

You were deliberately undermining evidence-based precautionary advice regarding vaccines and masking

Yes, as evidenced by the fact that I stated I masked everyday in a KN95, spray ELAH in my nostrils twice daily, and have every vaccine I am eligible for.

Look you don't get to pretend everyone who has a different take on the morality of individual covid precautions is undermining the science of individual covid precautions. I was arguing with a colleague in March 2020 about the efficacy of the N95 I was wearing to the store because "CDC said there's no evidence those help", I'm not about to take accusations of mask efficacy minimization from you seriously.

[–] dat_math@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I 100% conflated you and another user. I'm so sorry for my aggression. Everything about covid, especially seeing people here doing what I erroneously accused you of has really been eroding my sanity.

[–] a_blanqui_slate@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago

No worries, that whole thing was a mess.

Cheers!

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago

Did you confuse them for someone else?

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

OP of that post was also not actually blaming his partner, it was a vent post, a way to air frustrations that are not worth or appropriate to do more than that for. It is extremely silly to frame it this way, like he sat down and ran the numbers and its all his partners fault, thats not the kind of post it was

[–] a_blanqui_slate@hexbear.net 0 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

I mean I read the following

She's also sorry, and I say it's fine because I want her to feel better and recover, but secretly I'm fucking raging.

As raging at her. That's what it seems to convey to me. If not, then yeah, disregard me.

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

I am fairly sure that its more along the lines of "fucking raging" at the 7th red light in a row on your 40 minute commute when you just want to be home after a double shift

Not like baying for blood, but like, GAAHH. I imagine the person who wrote that post spent exactly as long thinking of what words to use there as they took to type them out, it wasn't an effort post

I could also be wrong, but this is hexbear and we're supposed to assume good faith, especially in the context of an emotional vent post

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Not like baying for blood, but like, GAAHH. I imagine the person who wrote that post spent exactly as long thinking of what words to use there as they took to type them out, it wasn't an effort post

Literally thank you. I thought of putting an edit under the post, but we're all grown ups. I just needed a space to unload my feelings when unloading on my partner wasn't helpful.

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago

Care-Comrade

[–] a_blanqui_slate@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Yeah, I guess in that case I agree that the person calling him an asshole went to far in that sense, automatically assuming the worst case scenario and going on the attack.

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Yeah, there's several of those responses now in that thread and they piss me way off.

Im definitely with you that the healthier perspective is not to blame the person but the system that has inflicted this, while being as supportive as possible with prophylactics/ strategies etc, but thats the rational response, I'd be pissed at my partner too internally even while fully rationally aware that its silly to feel that way, but I wouldn't not feel that way inside a little lol