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[–] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 55 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

Unless you make it extremely clear from the get go that it's just for fun then flirting with someone you're not interested in is risky and even if it was made clear, there's always a risk something will develop on one side.

[–] protist@mander.xyz 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

It's never this cut and dry in real life though. People often misinterpret others' actions as flirting when they're just being friendly. For some people, a woman smiling and making eye contact is flirting. It's not on the person who's being friendly "to make it extremely clear from the get go" that they aren't interested in going out with you. It was on anon to ask this woman if she was single if he wanted to ask her out

[–] anomnom@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 hours ago

The anon countered this argument with the assertion that co-workers agreed about the level of flirting (which means it was likely pretty obvious). Also lamenting about doing things alone is pretty easy to interpret as a sign/hint about being single.

It was the way anon handled break off that was awkward. Though it’s understandable that his feelings were hurt in that moment, and it may have been difficult to respond thoughtfully.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 3 points 1 day ago

Idk, unless you make it extremely clear from the get go that you're treating an event as a date you shouldn't be mad if the other person has a partner especially if you never asked if they were single.

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world -3 points 1 day ago

Life is risky.