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My dad contacted me out of nowhere (startrek.website)

submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

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I'm a bit lost here, to be fair. I went full no contact with my family back when I was 16. Took a hike, even across countries. So, apparently what happened, was my ex brother in law not keeping his mouth shut and sharing my number with my family. I still can't make heads or tails of it. But now my dad wants to be real chummy and friendy with me? Fuck that, honestly. I'm not super mad at him, more at the rest of my family, but it seriously hurts right now. What am I supposed to do? I'm at a loss here. Haven't really talked to the person for over 21 years.

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[–] state_electrician@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

As a matter of fact, I did go no contact with my parents after I moved out at 19 and minimal contact as I got older. Nowadays, with both of them dead, I see their behavior more nuanced. I can appreciate how difficult it is to leave your own upbringing behind and they both came from families traumatized by war. That's my personal story, of course, and doesn't mean other people should see it the same way. But it's the reason why I think, after 20 years it's no problem to re-evaluate decisions you made as a teenager. If you still feel the same way you did back then, that's fine. But there's no point in leaving relationships behind that could be good for you just because.

[–] stinky@redlemmy.com 4 points 3 weeks ago

But there's no point in leaving relationships behind that could be good for you just because.

Did you go no contact with your parents "Just because" ?