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I agree with everything you said - it was worded well and you inserted the exceptions and qualifiers to make your point in a generalization that allows outliers. I do, however, wonder about the women who consider financial stability as a (if not the) major factor when choosing a partner, because we tend to hear only the stories of gold diggers, etc. and not the stories of women who married for love and simply had the fortune of having a partner that was able to acquire significant means. I'm guessing that's why the commenter you replied to said what they said. I'm sure the percentage is small, but those type of women give the rest of us a bad name.

The following is anecdotal, but I think still relevant: Speaking from personal experience, my husband is well educated, I love him to death, and he chooses to work in a job that is stable (meaning it's hard for them to get rid of him unless he makes some serious errors) rather than working for some private firm where he can easily be paid double if not more. He makes enough for us to get by while I'm finishing up grad school. I'm proud of his moral compass; he always tries to do the right thing.

His cousin, gem that she is, has always openly bragged about how she only goes on dates if the man is paying, yada yada, and she ended up finding some desperate sap 15 years her senior with money to burn; the culture they are from values marriage, so a single man in his 40's gets a lot of questions. Mind you, this is a woman who was fired from her job because she got caught breaking security protocol, blamed it on her cousin's husband (saying he snitched on her because they worked for the same firm), caused a feud, and refused to take responsibility. She hasn't held a job since, nor do I think she plans to, because they are now slum lords in Florida. Most of the family doesn't like interacting with her, but she's not the only one who has decided it's easier for her to behave this way rather than work herself.

People change, and when someone marries for love and one of the partners begins to change for the worse, it usually causes strain in a marriage as the values each partner holds no longer line up. Some people seek help and try to fix things. I read somewhere that the CEO's wife was a physical therapist? If so, she definitely knows how the medical industry works, and she should be very aware of the harm insurance companies are responsible for. If she chose to turn a blind eye instead of trying to aid him in seeing the error of his ways, it's because she herself lost sight of what the value of a human life is. She can blindly talk about how great of a guy he was because she was benefitting from all the perceived good it brought to her personally. I would wager she married him before he became CEO, but the fact that she stayed married to someone who led a company directly responsible for so much suffering is an indication of her character.

Another example: Mackenzie left Bozo because she saw who he turned into. I'm sure she'd speak well of him, but I imagine she would acknowledge all of his poor qualities. It's not unfair to judge anyone married to someone of high means (regardless of gender), because there's always a choice, especially when those means are directly gained by punishing others. There is a risk in financial instability through divorce, but at the level of assets in the millions it's not a really dire concern - courts can award alimony, split assets, etc. Or, you know, they could get a job.

The question becomes, "who are you as a person; do you value money above all else, or positively contributing to a society where the give and take is balanced?"

We can all work to uplift each other together but still criticize those who are working against us, even other women. I guess my point is that we shouldn't judge her for marrying into money, but we absolutely can judge her for her character if she chose to continue down this path.