askchapo

I agree, but I wanna go the other way too. I think women are weird about dudes too. My female friends will complain that guys are "bad about talking about their feelings!" (which they are at times) but really they're just bad at talking about their feelings the way women talk about their feelings.

I am very lucky to have very good guy friends and we are good at sharing emotions and our life and so on, it's nice. We often end up joking about it, sometimes there's tears but it's rare. But it's there. We don't talk about it the way women talk about it though, and for some reason we're wrong for that. In my experience feelings are treated less... seriously, like another thing to worry about rather than a separate entity, which - in my experience - is how I see it treated when a group of all women speak of feelings. Neither is wrong or right, as long as both result in better mental health.

I also agree about the "you're venting right now!" but I also here want to point out it goes both ways. When I vent to my friends and they suggest a solution, I'm happy. When they ask for clarification, I'm happy. It helps me process my emotions. Sometimes I'll tell them "I just need to vent" though and then they do that. I tell them that though, which is not something I've ever experienced from a girlfriend.

I don't want to sound like an incel, I agree with your observations and frustrations, I just... I feel like this is a safe space and I wanted to share some too.
Guys are incredibly weird about women. I don't talk to my dad anymore. When I was 12 I remember him looking at some 20-year old walking boy and him saying "boy I wish I had painted the pants on her" (she was wearing tight fitting pants). My mom was present. At my graduation he kept commenting about the looks of my female classmates. He's a pig and I hate him and I am glad mom left him.