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Maybe this is less controversial since her brief return during the dunk struggle. Basically my gender identity was in a sensitive place during that time, and being told to shut up, sit down and engage with gender theory I wasn't ready for was not helpful. In fact, I'd say it was actively harmful. I'm very stubborn when people order me to do something "because I said so" which was the predominant tone with TC69. That more or less shut down any willingness I had to explore gender on hexbear for a while.
Inceldom is primarily a maladaptive attitude driven by pain and alienation, and while that shouldn't preempt people expressing how incel behavior harms them we should still remember it as pretext for its existence. I was incel-adjacent as a young teen and what kept me from going full blown alt-right PragerU gamergate was compassion from others and the opportunity to grow as a person.
Compassion for others is something I can always get behind. We all come from different backgrounds and experiences, and something the world can always use more of is compassion for others.
All actions are driven by compassion; skillful, or not actions attempt to relieve suffering of oneself or others. While there are certainly people I would appreciate dying, letting someone live rent free in your head hurts yourself. Incels are victims of capitalism like the rest of us and are worthy of solidarity even if they don’t understand the skillful means to alleviate their suffering right now.
Well said