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How do you get over a crush? (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 week ago by LibsEatPoop@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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It is kinda ruining my life lmao. I have never felt this strongly for anyone. When we talk, I can ride that high for days. But then she gives me (what I perceive as) the cold shoulder and the depression I feel... boy. It's been like this for months. I cannot go on, man.

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[–] CthulhusIntern@hexbear.net 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Most crushes do fade eventually. How long has it been?

[–] LibsEatPoop@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Six months.

[–] Lurkerino@hexbear.net 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Research Limerence

[–] LibsEatPoop@hexbear.net 17 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Author and psychologist Frank Tallis has made the argument that all love—even normal love—is largely indistinguishable from mental illness

Fucking based.

For example, when people fall in love, there are four core symptoms: preoccupation, episodes of melancholy, episodes of rapture and instability of mood

Yeah….i might have limerence. I’m all of this.

that limerence most commonly lasts between 18 months and three years with an average of two years, but may be as short as mere days or as long as a lifetime

BRO WHAT THE FUCK. NO NO NO GET ME OUT GET ME OUT GET ME OUT.

[–] Lurkerino@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

Yeah, its bad, I had limerence for a while, like 2 years, Im over that person now. It was really hard getting over it as they helped me a lot with my mental problems, yet I ended being emotionally dependant on them and became toxic myself, of course I didnt know, I was really depressed and I clinged to anyone who would help me

[–] greenhorn@lemm.ee 2 points 1 week ago

I went the three-ish years route, 0 out of 5 stars. I think that Frank Tallis guy wrote a free self help guide I used that was too little too late for me by the time I came across it, but the content was good.