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Reconnecting with old friends! 🥰 (midwest.social)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by Pandantic@midwest.social to c/chat@hexbear.net

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I’m just posting this because I’m kind of excited and I wanted to share with someone. I reconnected with some of my old friends and we are going to get together virtually and do a RPG together! I’m not sure yet how things will go with scheduling, etc. and I don’t know if all my old friends will participate (2/6 so far), but I’m really hopeful! I think this will help purposefully bring us together and give us an “excuse” to be in each other’s lives, which is something I’ve been in dire need of lately. Just the thought fills me with hope and pulls me out of my bullshit doomerism I’ve been in lately!

How do you guys keep connected with your long distance friends?

Edit: committed friends up to 5/6. Unfortunately, I got a nope for the last one. They said they left the past in the past for a reason (oof) and nothing personal against me, and I keep trying to tell that last part to my brain. I guess it’s like grieving, I just need to feel it until I don’t. 😢

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[–] Anissem@lemmy.ml 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Too much time has past and distance traveled. Good luck on your group, I’m envious

[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 3 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Too much time has past and distance traveled.

If you don’t mind me asking - why do you say that? IMO, good friends can always pick up where they left off, even if the conversation isn’t as interesting as when you were kids.

[–] Anissem@lemmy.ml 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

We’re talking like 20+ years too late and an entire country between. I wouldn’t even know what to say anymore. Got caught up with my career and now friends just seem so inaccessible. I will admit I’m an introvert and have lots of social anxiety so that hasn’t helped the situation.

[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

I get what you’re saying. I just called a friend I haven’t talked to in 10 years, and it was fine, but 20+ years is twice+ as long as that. As for what to say, when you’re that far removed, just catching up on peoples’ lives is the icebreaker. “What have you been up to?” Being an introvert does complicate things, but I guess I’m someone who is not an introvert around my friends.

I don’t want to pressure you, but I do think it’s worth giving it a shot if you miss them. Just something to think about! 😊

[–] Anissem@lemmy.ml 2 points 8 months ago

Thanks friend

[–] Parzivus@hexbear.net 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Not them but I recently tried to reach out to a friend after having almost no contact for about four years. He didn't respond to texts or Discord DMs. Asked a mutual friend about it and they said he hates talking to people, which wasn't my experience when I knew him but I guess people change.

Sorry to vent a lil bit but it's been in my head a lot

[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 2 points 8 months ago

That’s sad to hear. I wonder what happened. I guess there’s nothing you can do in situations like that.