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[–] autismdragon@hexbear.net 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I love how people just took this entirely arbitrary made up rule and said "yes this is an absolute moral law and you are ontologically evil predator man if you break it". Its so silly to me.

[–] mar_k@hexbear.net 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

nobody thinks this it's just a general idea people made up, imo it's too strict for older ages and not strict enough for younger ages. a lot of is common sense, like a 30 yo and a 20 yo is objectively creepy

edit: usually objectively creepy

[–] autismdragon@hexbear.net 1 points 2 years ago

Thats about the age gap between me and one of my two my girlfriends (the other is much closer to my age). I'm autistic so I relate better to people younger than me and am developmentally delayed "maturity" wise. And I dont have a career or family or anything so I'm not in a significantly different "life stage" than her. Ive been very careful to be sure there's no power dynamic issues between us and I'm confident there isn't.

Idk, I'm against hard and fast rules, I agree that large age gaps between adults CAN have problems I just dont think they automatically do, and I think at some point we need to respect the agency of the young adult and stop infantilizing them. My girlfriend gets seriously personally offended by these conversations.