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Is it wrong to put your career first and push getting into a relationship further later? (lemmy.world)
submitted 1 day ago by zerozaku@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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I don't get it. Everywhere I look there is this discussion about getting into a relationship, getting gfs/bfs and constantly chasing after it. And I'm not doing anything of it. I never paid attention to such stuff. During my teenage years, I thought it was normal attraction which people cave into and pursued such things. But now in my 20s, the same thing I observe, if not a little bit more than I used it. People getting sad because they are not finding someone. People being happy because they have one for themselves.

I'm not that career focused either. I just mind my own business. If it's studying or working, I just mind that. I do nothing like checking out girls in my school/workplace like my peers do. Maybe I'm just scared to pursue such things. I also think having a relationship is a huge headache too. Meeting them, making them happy, going out with them regularly. (I don't go out myself where will I take her to?). All of this while doing your daily stuff.

Am I wrong thinking to put career first before I get into relationships and stuff?

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[–] Eeyore_Syndrome@sh.itjust.works 39 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Noone dies wishing they worked more.

[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

But almost every poor old person wishes they'd earned more when they were younger.

[–] Eeyore_Syndrome@sh.itjust.works 6 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

Same. But I merely burnt-out+got Fibromyalgia at 32.

I should have worked more harder. /s

[–] ch00f@lemmy.world 5 points 23 hours ago

Also, "Work won't love you back."