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I think the point is talking about it, so both the picture and your comment go hand in hand. Both are the start of a conversation.
I think the intent is to make people aware that someone can externally be happy/successful/etc but still be in a very bad place internally. People who have or do deal with depression and related conditions probably think this is so obvious it's not worth pointing out, but I think a lot of them would be surprised how often the average person takes someone's externalized condition and assumes it's their entire experience.
I have no idea if posts like this picture do anything to actually inform people (and I'd bet not), but I guess I get what they're going for.
I appreciate the thoughtful response, thanks!
From my perspective there’s two issues being addressed:
These two might also feed into each other. A depressed person might not feel seen and/or might feel like a burden. Which most likely worsens their depression.
Nobody knew I had near-constant suicidal ideation until I finally told someone outright. It's not a desire for suicide, but constant rehearsal, like an "earworm" song you don't like, but can't get rid of.
The sad thing is, if you don't ask, you might never know. People mask well. So if you have a loved one, and things are superficial with that person, FIX THAT SHIT. Talk personally. Get close, try to get them talking. Give them an in to open up.
Hopefully you won't be surprised to find they felt alone and unloved after they're gone.
edit: nevermind
Haha, you should go look at my comment history. I just mined myself a whole bunch of downvotes in a situation because I'm a default asshole.
I'm taking a radical transparency tactic these days. I feel like I've been covering and hiding enough, keeping up appearances. I'm not trying to be unpleasant, by no means. I actually apologized in the downvoted thread, because I was clearly in the wrong.
Nonetheless, in the future I am plowing straight ahead, come what may. Maybe you should reserve your downvotes for things that you're passionate about though.
The truth is I'm here for connection, not affection.
Even smiling people can be depressed. The rest is just window dressing.
I think the title should be "This is what depression can look like"
The marsks we wear in public can hide what we truly feel. Take some time to talk to people and check they're ok behind the mask.