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I believe antinatalism is a dire mistake, and the highest thing someone can aspire to be is a parent
Why?
On, that's easy to address. You don't need to have kids as long as you're improving society so that other people's kids thrive.
Now we're inclusive of the infertile and accomplish the same goal.
But I also agree, fucking is the best
antinatalism is gross but I don't think the highest aspiration is parenthood
Why so?
Have kids, find out. Spoiler, it is, for most people.
Yeah that part.
Oooeh this is one is gonna piss off a lot of lemmings. This is one of those hard echo chamber topics that haunt Lemmy.
Also don't mention religion, that will also twist a lot of panties on here
imo u don't necessarily have to be a parent, you can be a parental figure to a younger person, be a good role model and teach them well
I believe that its pointless to argue this way or that about antinatalism, as we no longer have control of a population encroaching 8 billion. It just becomes a moot point to bash each other on over the internet (which can be said about a multitude of other subjects).
I'm not going to have kids. That's just what I want. Going extreme on antinatalism or pronatalism is just circling back to telling other people what they should do with their bodies. Everything is just so extreme these days. Its do or die in the eyes of the public, no matter what you do, and its grating.
The debate shows… the next generation it’s OK to have strong feelings both ways?
(initially I was going to make a point that seemed on shaky ground given search engines exist - “not everyone has formed their opinion yet” so for those [young] people, just check out a couple opposing books from the local library and that’s sufficient? Ooooh, what about when they want to debate what they read! Ground feels less shaky!)
It really all boils down to "live how you want as long as you're not bothering others". If you believe heavily in it, then live by it, but stop slamming it into the heads of people who believe the opposite or just don't care.
It's part of the reason why younger gens cringe at religion. "Do this or you will go to hell, but do it through us because you'll go to hell if you do it through another religion." It's enough to make anyone balk, and rightfully so. The ground is always shaky, it just doesn't feel as shaky if you shake with it.
...Now I want a shake.
Well obviously if you're fully antinatalist you're basically working towards human extinction.
But I think that a healthy society includes a few child-free people. In fact, as someone without kids, I'd happily pay a much higher tax rate so that parents can stay home with their kids. I doubt I'd be a good parent anyways, and so I'd prefer to contribute to society in ways people with families can't.
Regardless of one's views on antinatalism, we absolutely need to acknowledge that not everyone is suitable for parenthood. I'm not suggesting that we (as a society) impose restrictions on it. Rather if someone self-selects for not having kids, people need to STFU and accept it rather than trying to shame or pressure them.
Thank you. I did not have kids for a number of reasons, and I can assure you the world would not be a better place if I had. But I do always enjoy people telling me my life is pointless, haha
Why is it the highest thing someone can aspire to? You don't think being a Nobel-winning scientist is as important as being a parent?
Be a good parent.
Far too many out there are shit, or at best mediocre parents.
If you're going to say the church, the school, the neighbors, other family members, anyone else is who should raise your kids, you should aspire for a vasectomy.
If you aspire to just pump out kids for a number game, you missed the Dark Ages. Though a Mennonite community may be your thing.
Im not too judgemental of most anti-natalists but the ones who claim having kids is bad for the planet can fuck right off.
I hate this myth. The world can absolutely support a large human population IF we arent all living the same hideously wasteful lifestyle. We need to change our consumeristic shitstain of a culture. Blaming population growth is just a means to justify continuing to live wasteful lifestyles and not having to change anything.
Its literally just placing a higher value on consumerism than human lives. Its gross.
Antinatalism is a mistake - I think I agree there, mostly because it's a path to a narrow gene pool and increases the probability of extinction.
Highest aspiration being parenthood - hard pass there, the highest aspiration in life is the seeking and sharing of knowledge.
Lol you should work for an online ad agency.
How many kids do you have?
I agreed with this up until the 'and'.