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I am quite good at talking to people. But I want to step up my flirting game. So what are some relatively "safe" ways to flirt?

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i guess people have distorted ideas about flirting. here's how i see it:

  • be aware of your goals

  • be honest to yourself (what do you really want)

  • communicate clearly. be aware of what you want and make no mystery out of it in front of the other person. if you hold back, you're blocking yourself, and that can't be good.

  • don't be an asshole. that's difficult in today's society where everything seems to be about exploitation and profit optimization, but there used to be a world long ago that was non-exploitative, consensus-oriented. try to feel that vibe

  • that should be it. if you're not an asshole, nothing bad should happen to you. however, that is practically not the case today. whatever wrong twist "feminism" took in recent years to convince society that "all men are assholes" is splitting society apart. it's provocing a civil war. society must find its senses and reject the forceful-splitting-between-women-and-men of society. in a time where even a glance is "sexual harassment" and women project their mental health issues on men and call it all their fault, is a world that is no longer honest and does therefore IMHO no longer deserve to exist.