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[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Are you neurodiverse? Just wondering cos sometimes us neuros are bad drivers

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Not diagnosed but at this point I'm about 99% sure I'm high masking either ADHD or autism or both. I don't like self diagnosing personally (ever since coming across a warning against it when I did psych 101 and 102) but starting to feel like I need to for my own sake, just so that I can find the resources I need to live successfully.

Tried going through the public healthcare system for a diagnosis and was left with the impression that unless I have visible tics and 'act' like something is wrong, I'm not going to be getting any help there.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's a nightmare. I was incredibly lucky my doctor made it work for me and got me diagnosed. Work then had no choice but to send me for a full assessment. Changed my life. Is there any other route you can go down eg work education local charity etc?

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I haven't actually looked into if there are any charities dealing with diagnosis. That might be a possibility. I've never been in any job that would bother though. South Africa has this thing about being 'tough' and too cool for school all the time. If I had to bring it up to a boss, I'd probably be laughed at and called "gay" or something. Or be told something like "we're all a little autistic, deal with it". I'm 100% making assumptions because I've never tried it but I think I've got this place pretty well figured out by now.

I think my only option is private, which means that it's just another thing that needs saving up for. On a growing list of things I need money for.

Glad to hear that you're finally getting answers. I really get the impression that you're on a mission to live your best life right now and I love that. I'm not completely giving up myself. I'll still lurk in neurodivergent spaces and pick up tips and learn things. Just without any medication I guess (unless you count self medicating with pot).

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yep saving for it is a nightmare. Lurking is a really good idea you'll pick up loads from peoples lived experiences and we'll all 100% help you however we can 😊

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I've definitely picked up that people in these spaces are mainly accepting and understanding. And sympathetic to people who feel their only option is self diagnosis. So the final barrier is me wondering if I really belong as usual lol. But I'm learning to get over myself and allow myself to find my people. Thank you for always being so kind.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 1 day ago

That's a really nice thing to say music. And you're welcome 🥰