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I've been talking about this with my therapist but curious to hear what other people think. I feel like being overweight makes me look more masculine. I lost 60 pounds since last fall and I feel like it's much easier to see myself as feminine, though it's still not great, in part because I've still got like 40lbs left to reach my goal weight.

I think part of the problem is that I am tall with a fairly large frame, so the weight just makes me even more stocky and Tony Soprano-esque. Plus I've just come to associate my being overweight with being unattractive, and my concept of femininity is very caught up in my fear of not being attractive post-transition

Anyway 4 dollars a pound

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[โ€“] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 3 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Are you my doppelganger? I've lost a similar amount since last fall and have a similar amount to go to my goal.

I also see myself in a much better light now, but idk how much is because of the effects of hrt, and how much is because of the weight loss. I think there's a lot of intersectionality between the two.

[โ€“] RION@hexbear.net 2 points 4 days ago (2 children)

but idk how much is because of the effects of hrt, and how much is because of the weight loss

Yeah this is my exact conundrum ๐Ÿ™ƒ

[โ€“] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Maybe it's such a conundrum because they can't be completely separated? Seeing results from HRT gave me hope that my body has a future. Without that hope I doubt I could've pushed through the worst. And without the weight loss, I would have struggled so much more exploring gender affirming clothing which really doesn't come easily to me, even though it brings me a great deal of joy. Maybe it's so hard for me to separate the two because I can't imagine one without the other.

[โ€“] RION@hexbear.net 2 points 4 days ago

It was kinda the inverse for me, I started losing weight first and that gave me more hopium that maybe I'd be able to see myself as an attractive girl