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People talk about what they know, rich people are just living in a different bubble so the disconnect to regular folks is bigly. I’m sure this lady thinks she’s endlessly charming and entertaining.

I have a friend like this, he’s pretty well off and his only real hobby is traveling and his leisure time is spent going to bars and restaurants. So our conversations basically revolve around talking about him and his spouse’s last vacation. I can’t afford vacations or eating out so I can’t contribute at all, nor would I really want to, and when I turn the topic to my hobbies and interests the conversation peters out because unlike me he can’t even fain the interest in a conversation to keep it going.

So our weekly conversations are boring af for me because it’s just listening to him talk about some new Peruvian restaurant he went to, we talk about his last trip to Peru, I yap for a bit about potatoes, bring up a knitting project I’m working on, and then the conversation is over. I definitely commiserate with your spouse, lol.

I wonder if posh people are so used to talking to service workers and underlings who are required by their job to please them, that they have no idea how fucking boring they are.

I definitely think so. Charitably, they’re trying to make connections with others in their social circle through common shared interests, but they live in a such a different world, oblivious to how most live, that it comes across as very disconnected. Even commiserating about problems ends up being two folks talking over each other. I have no reference frame to care about some small mishap getting your fancy car detailed, and he has no frame of reference for my frustration with having to air up my slowly leaking tire every day before driving to work because the leak can’t be patched and I can’t afford a new tire.