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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by IronKrill@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

This question's on my mind because my coworker today mentioned they would vote for Trump if they could (mind you this is 2023, in Canada). I don't generally have the talking points or the desire to fight about it, so I just deflected the conversation. But I often wish I was more strong-willed and could try to figure out why someone believes what they do and, if it's invalid, then convince them otherwise.

Thus, I'm curious what you all would say or what you've done in the past!

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[-] VerdantSporeSeasoning@lemmy.ca 14 points 9 months ago

If you're privileged enough not to be threatened in that situation (ie you're not a younger woman, an immigrant, LGBTQ+) and it's not emotionally damaging to maintain the relationship, do. Be there, but be open about different and willing to answer questions. Either they'll be an ass eventually, or maybe, just maybe, you can show them the rabbit hole is just their head in the sand. Cult deprogrammers say over and over that the best way to get people to see reason is through personal conversation. But don't have expectations that it'll work all at once, or if they go back and forth in their beliefs. Unlearning worldviews is hard work.

[-] Pips@lemmy.film 8 points 9 months ago

OP said coworker, which I think most people missed. If you're privileged enough to quit your job over a coworker's political opinion, more power to you, I guess. I think that's letting the fascists win, since you've literally ceded ground. But I believe OP is looking for constructive solutions to discuss politics with a coworker to preserve the relationship, likely both for their sanity at work and because there's other things about the person they like.

[-] VerdantSporeSeasoning@lemmy.ca 0 points 9 months ago

I wasn't advocating that a person should quit. But there's a far cry between the people I'm polite to because I see them at work everyday vs the people I'll invest emotional energy in, converse with about more than the day's weather. It's really hard that OP has emotionally invested in a person who listens to bad people. That divide--where OP wants to put attention and conversation--is what I was trying to highlight. Have rational, honest conversations--if it's safe to do so.

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