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Why assume a rejection is because of you?
Why not assume they are having a bad day, they are just out of a previous relationship and they want a break, your just not their type (even if you had all the abs and a chiseled jaw and confidence they wouldn't be interested), what if they aren't into your gender, or what if they are in a committed relationship with their horse?
There are a lot of things that can cause it to be a no deal that are not your fault. If you feel like you did a good job asking, then it is probably one of the above.
This goes in all matters. The people who succeed don't take everything personally.
Everyone who’s deflected N rejections and given life advice to others based on that, has not yet experienced N+1 rejections.
Was it bad advice, or are you just maudlin because you know I am right?
100% of women I tried getting with rejected me, surely this is because of me.
It's like ya'll motherfuckers need to memorize the serenity prayer.
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
And yet every other comment on this post is "just have confidence; change how you act and look and you'll stop being rejected."
It's so silly to keep acting like attractiveness has zero to do with dating and likeability. Especially when there are permanent issues that are genetic or medical or whatever that go beyond "get a haircut and buy new clothes." American society is super judgemental in general when it comes to appearance and aging (especially toward women), and identity. It gets much worse in the dating scene, especially now that it's so frequently based on swiping left or right on a single photo and you're competing with filters. Yes, there's always the possibility of finding a group of people or a person that you fit in with, and you should always put work into finding that (if that's something you want - not everyone wants to be paired off) but let's stop throwing realism completely out the window ffs.
-- a woman
Things I cannot change:
OK now what?
Now you hit on autistic people. Comes with the pro that they'll be more likely to find your infodumping socially acceptable or even enjoyable.
Sounds like he's figuring out the difference.
How many women are we talking about here? I got rejected by 40ish before I met my last girlfriend.
About 5.
That's a good start. Don't fear the man who suceeds the first time. Fear the man who has failed thousands of times.
It could be, which is why my comment "friends, family, therapy" is useful, I think. If you're noticing a pattern that's upsetting you that you think could be an issue, talk with your friends, family, and a therapist about it. It can be difficult to identify issues we bring to relationships. It also might not be anything to do with you, though, so that's where the support from others can prevent a bad pattern of beating ourselves up unnecessarily comes in.
Someone replied that therapy may be inaccessible, but now more than ever there are tons of sliding scale therapists, groups, etc that can meet in person or online, even for free. And honestly, I'm grappling with the issue myself that I need to prioritize my mental health and not let the monetary set back be an excuse. It's an investment that will pay off