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Yes. Namely, physically attractive partners. If I got anything else because of it, I wouldn't really know the difference.
But there's no way I could have the partners I've had otherwise, especially considering I've always been pretty broke.
I think there's a lot of features that can override other "attractive" traits. I've seen a lot of tall guys (for example) with fairly average faces who have been with really staggeringly attractive women (i was jealous) that would probably not have given them the light of day if they weren't really tall.
That's true but I'm not that tall either, unfortunately for my own preferences. Haha
Really don't say it out of ego, though. I never found myself all that attractive. Since I was a kid people would tell me I was very attractive but I always felt it was just something people said to be nice. Only later by looking back at my many above-average, beautiful partners over the years did I eventually realize that it's probably true. I always just thought I was lucky to be out of my league every time. Self-esteem is a fuck.
I just get people giving me the benefit of the doubt more I think and automatically assuming the best of me.
I'll add if you're what the norm deems as "weird or off" I don't care how attractive you are, you're not going to keep any sort of partner for very long.
As someone who gets told I'm an attractive guy somewhat often (by people other than my mom lol) I'd take being more charismatic over this.