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It is more of a totally different perspective. Like, if a person is concerned about their self image it is something negative they are self conscious of, but the opposite is not true. People that may seem to have a positive self image just have different things they are self-conscious of. There are narcissistic people, but that disorder is probably not what you're referring to. I don't think anyone is really aware of any positive traits within themselves, at least not with 100% confidence. Maybe that is just my perspective, but like, I've had lots of people tell me I'm attractive. I still don't believe I am. I can tell I'm smart based on my curiosity, interests, and accomplishments compared to other people around me. Still there are at least a half dozen times a day I do something stupid, and while I may compare a certain way to people around me IRL, a place like this is full of people far smarter than I could ever hope to achieve.
Just try not to focus on the negative more than is necessary and useful. Feeling dumb about something one did in the past is a sign of growth, or at least the opportunity for growth. Truly stupid people never feel stupid.