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Trans Megathread for the Week of 4/29 - 5/5
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I am actually so blackpilled on ^binary^ gender it's not even remotely funny, I'm a fucking gender abolitionist like John Brown was an abolitionist, I have completely lost my mind on this subject, it's absurd. My brain no longer formulates coherently around the concept, it's just noise up there. I don't actually understand anything. Silly shit
I feel you. For myself, I'm so stuck in the gender binary for some weird reason. Hells, I considered myself enby for years before my egg ever cracked and now I'm stuck on the male/female dichotomy and it's irritating. I feel like my desire to fully stealth is driving that home for some reason and I can't really do much about it. I don't want to change that desire either, so maybe there is no changing it.
As a note, this is regarding only myself and not other people.
More and more people are saying this
Oh I see though, you did the nb -> binary pipeline, have heard of it before.
By truth I think wanting to stealth is a pretty valid reason to engage with binary gender. I might be weird andloud about it all the time, but choosing exactly how loud or quiet to be about your gender should always be a choice for the individual, so maybe there's no need to change that desire anyway?
I just get paranoid because there's really strong sentiment against stealthing. I don't really have any communities I'm a part of anymore since the internet has become shit, so I'm careful in the ones that I am still able to maintain a presence in.
Rambling monologue about personal expectations of my own transition and thoughts on gender regarding my own personal life
I want to be quiet about my gender personally. I'm at a stage in my life where I can't really pick and choose where I go as I'm rooted in place for an amount of time uncertain. This area is not super friendly to trans folk, which is readily apparent with the amount of gargantuan trucks in pristine condition with american flag and punisher decals. Stealthing is a form of survival mechanism in a sense so that I just blend into the crowd so I don't get picked out. It's worked thus far, but I'm still hyper paranoid about it as I still ask my wives if I pass either audibly, visibly, or both.However, stealthing also does come from my own personal idea of my gender where I wish to be seen as nothing but a woman. Being referred to as sir or equivalents genuinely makes me feel like I got stabbed in the heart. However, having someone purposefully eschew gendered pronouns with me is also a pretty significant source of dysphoria for me as well. With all of this in mind, I do my best so fit what the common consensus of a "woman" is. Which is funny cause I sometimes find myself desiring to fit into a complete enby space because I absolutely despise the idea of binary genders and everything involved with them. The expectations of what a woman should be by the general public is so staggeringly difficult to meet and I just fucking hate it so much. How one should look, how one should act, what one should be interested in, all of that happy shit. I hate it. I want to be a woman, but I don't want to be mired down by all these unfair expectations of the general public and I want to stealth in the general public. I've actually recently come to terms with myself in the sense that I can continue to just be myself and stealth, but it's still really hard to fully internalize that, so it rears its ugly head from time to time.
Honestly, this thought process is probably a good reason why I immediately slammed the gas on my transition the second my egg cracked. I wanted to live life as a woman in the sense of the general public and start having experiences that I was robbed of my entire life. To achieve that goal, I wanted to medically transition as quickly as possible because I was already in my 30s and I only have so much time on this planet before I can no longer experience new things. So I started HRT within 2 months of my egg cracking and I had GCS before I hit the 2 year mark. Because these are things I always wanted and never had words for, I knew that I was taking the right path off the bat. I will say that it really worked out for me as I've never been happier sitting where I'm sitting now, so it was the correct thing for me to do.
Sorry if that was a bunch of rambling. I know it's super disjointed, but I hope it came across somewhat. My thoughts on all of this are incredibly complicated and complex, It's hard to properly convey them for parsing by third parties. I do hope that I was able to achieve that goal.
I get why that is, because it's seen as an assimilationist thing sometimes. But again, everyone should have a right to decide how much they broadcast their transness. Instead of getting mad at people who want to be stealth, (silly, antagonising our comrades) why not go yell at cis people who want us to assimilate? Ez!
nice ramble!!
Yeah that's another aspect, you can holler at people about being out-and-proud and trans-positive, but safety first. It's sad and awful that we live in a societyHaha same, I never wanna be "sir" or "him" or "mister" ever again
so I feel you there.
This makes sense given how arbitrary and difficult the societal "woman" standard is, yaw. I follow. By truth I can see pretty easily why you think how you do about it, was very easy to follow for a big ramble =) It's kind of validating to hear from someone else who instantly "slammed the gas" on transition, I've always felt a little weird for discovering you could transition, and then immediately yelling at people that I was gonna do it...
This is me also! Love to see it
No worries, it was great actually I enjoyed reading, thank you ✨ I'm always happy to wrap my head around other people's experiences and perceptions, this was very enriching