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I relate to that. Actually you sound like you're more on the ball then me. I would describe most of my social interactions as going 50% or lower than an imagined ideal, and even when things go perfectly I'm wracked by "cringe attacks" for weeks. But I would still consider myself to me thriving.
Maybe you don't relate to the above, but I think social life is just harder for some of us. If you can keep a conversation going by contributing anecdotes and recalling details about the person, that's incredible! People who can do that seem like superheroes to me.
I'll wade into a social situation but then just be like uhhh what now? I feel proud if I can just remember someone's name, let alone remember to talk about something other than myself.
Anyway I don't feel bad for myself lol. My point is that maybe we do alright. Maybe we're just overthinkers.
Those cringe attacks are so real! But very true, if we are so so mindful of our interactions we can't come off as bad as imagined...