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[–] 1984 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Never compliment ladies you don't know about how they look, it comes off as creepy. Doesnt matter who does it.

You wouldn't walk up to a random guy and give a compliment right? So you need to start from the beginning and get to know her, just like a guy friend.

[–] procrastinator@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Honestly I think we should normalize giving compliments to each other. It's kind of sad that it feels weird to give another guy a compliment and creepy giving a girl a compliment.

[–] 1984 0 points 1 year ago

Absolutely. It used to be appriciated by girls when a guy gives a compliment but things are very different today.

[–] BrutalPoseidon@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I am a man and I absolutely have given other men compliments. Specifically their shirts if they're a band I like and I've received those too. I am very happy when someone compliments my attire or hair.

I think we should normalize giving each other compliments regardless of gender, as another user said. Of course it shouldn't be like an exaggerated amount but it would be nice to prop each other up and boost all our confidences. I think that we could tell each other nice things more often. We could certainly be kinder to one another.

[–] Samuraipizzacat@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Same. I've given men and women compliments and have gotten random compliments from both. Usually tshirts or hair styles or tattoos that run close to what I like. I think it's more about how it's said. Informal compliments are best as it doesn't put assumptions on the other side. "That's a cool hair ribbon" is different than "I love when you wear your hair ribbons". The assumption of feelings isn't in the first one. More compliments should be given out freely if you genuinely feel a certain way. Just don't go full lovestruck on the ice breaker.

[–] Hyggyldy@sffa.community 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have given other dudes compliments on things. I understand women constantly deal with guys hitting on them and I don't hold any animosity towards this woman but I literally just said that I love her hair ribbons. That should not be seen as creepy. If it was anyone but me it probably would have been fine but I fuckin suck.

[–] 1984 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well the girl knows you are hitting on her, and it's not about the hair ribbons. If they were on some unattractive person, you probably wouldn't say anything. :)

[–] Hyggyldy@sffa.community 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You don't fucking know me but whatever. Keep making assumptions. It doesn't matter. I know I suck and I don't plan on talking to women I don't have to any more. No one deserves to have to deal with me. Have a good day.

[–] 1984 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I really didn't mean to offend you, I just wanted to show how a girl may react to it.

I'm not saying you are creepy, sorry if it came across they way. I just meant that girls probably think it's creepy to get compliments about their appearance from strangers.

Anyway, sorry if I upset you. I'm actually a nice person :)

[–] Hyggyldy@sffa.community 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm sorry, I get touchy when it feels like people are trying to tell me who I am. I don't think you're mean and I'm not mad at you. I never should have commented in the first place. All I've done is wind myself up amd make myself feel like shit.

[–] 1984 1 points 1 year ago

I'm glad you did comment....anyway, hope you feel better soon. Women are not the end goal of life, they can also cause problems, believe me :)