From the UK. I've never seen matte spelled as matt. CA, UK and AU are generally pretty close with spelling, whereas the US is usually off doing its own thing. It's a similar thing to blonde and blond.

[–] Rivalarrival 20 points 5 months ago (4 children)

Blonde = female; blond = male

[–] spaduf@slrpnk.net 10 points 5 months ago

But that's the french's fault.

[–] Blizzard@lemmy.zip 5 points 5 months ago

I thought it was blond = hair colour and blonde = person with blond hair.

[–] Steve@startrek.website 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Excuse me wtf

[–] Rivalarrival 7 points 5 months ago

I shit you not, that is the etymological distinction between the two.

How strictly that distinction is observed is an open question.

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago (3 children)

What if they're non-binary?

[–] PrinceWith999Enemies@lemmy.world 12 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Blondə

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 11 points 5 months ago

Blondx

[+] Rivalarrival -9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (3 children)

If they're non-binary, you're going to be so anxious about using the right pronouns that you won't even notice their hair color.

Edit: it's a joke answer,, people, in response to a joke question. It's not made at the expense of any marginalized individual or group. The only people who would be anxious about the situation are allies; the 'phobes don't give a shit. Untwist yer knickers.

[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 11 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Nah, most enbys are chill and recognize that pronouns can be easy to forget. You're just upset that people get annoyed when you repeatedly misgender them.

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I had firsthand experience when an enby stayed at our place for a while. My old Gen X self had trouble remembering to use the correct pronouns sometimes, but it got easier with practice. Decades of using only binary pronouns for individuals takes time to unlearn.

[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 4 points 5 months ago

I'll be honest, it took me a while to start remembering "they/them", even for myself. However, now I have the opposite problem, which is that I tend to substitute "they/them" for gendered pronouns. Normally that's not a problem because most people accept neutral pronouns, but some people can be very picky about their pronouns and then I have to remember that "they/them" can't be universally applied to everyone.

[–] Rivalarrival 1 points 5 months ago

Agreed, all the NBs I know are chill.

Their "allies", not so much.

[–] match@pawb.social 3 points 5 months ago

Have you talked to your therapist about that?

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 2 points 5 months ago

Being considerate just takes practice.