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Coming out is not a single, grand event. It's a decision we have to make repeatedly, sometimes even daily.
Do I have the energy to correct the dude I bought a guitar cable from who assumed I have a wife? I was tired and cranky that day so I didn't correct him, now I have to deal with feeling weird or even a tad guilty for not standing up for myself or my partner even on such a tiny level.
Yes, media portrays coming out as something you do once and then you're out! Really, it's something you do over and over again with every person or group you come out to. Some people are easier to come out to than others. Whether we do it and how we do it depends a lot on the specific circumstances.
Edit: I once heard this terminology reversed and it really resonated with me. That is, it's not about who you are out to but who you let in. It's a privilege to be on the inside, not an obligation for you to be out.