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Complimenting another guy's physique is a bit weird I think unless you're trying to date them or are someone who works on their body as well.
As an older guy who recently got into shape (and am definitely not an introvert) it always comes across a bit weird to me when someone who is out of shape mentions it.
As a hetero male, of course I'm happy when any women mentions it, but it actually feels better when someone who is in better shape mentions it (probably because I'm married and a women's comment, while nice, isn't actionable but someone who is in better shape knows the work it took to get here).
That is a tough situation.
How about "Jesus, put the weights down occasionally and leave some pussy for the rest of us!"? It acknowledges your effort, but is clearly they are not trying to hit on you.
Jesus does not approve of this comment
He’s often a little cross.
Must have a heavy burden to bear
At this point I'll take what I can get. I put a lot of effort in my physique and pretty much only ever hear about from other dudes. I've had one woman mention it to me in 8 years. I don't work out just to get complements but I'm happy with my results and it'd be nice to know I'm not delusional. I suspect part of the problem is that I'm very short for a dude, I hear about that all the time.
Maybe your physique is so well built that women are too flustered and mentally tripped up to coherently comment about it.
Yeah.... That's probably it...