I would probably be a mom by now if I could be, not because I want to be but due to regular happenstance, but with everything I face and everything having kids could add to that, I don't trust myself as one, with both bad genetics and a fear of imbuing a bad childhood at play.
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Having kids, that is the only way my genes can live on. But even having step or adopted kids is preferable.
It just brings so much joy as nothing else.
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Expensive and bad for the planet.
I can't fathom why anyone would want to have kids. Not for me.
Those who truly know their own preference have no choice in the matter.
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Kids. The whole world is new and interesting to them and that is infectious.
having children sounds disgusting. every year that I'm still alive and I see more of my friends on Facebook posting their fat naked baby slobber garbage I am even more happy than before. fuck your cookie slobber food garbage bowling ball head fat screaming toothless idiot crap. do not ever come to my house. im blocking them all
Me and my wife has kinda agreed to not have kids. But as life goes on you kind do want it. You don't want to be in your 50s and wish you had kids to spend time with.
So soon we are having our second. And yes, life is very different but honestly I wouldn't want it any other way.
'Steve and I were talking about children one time, and he said the problem with children is that they carry your heart with them. The exact phrase was, βItβs your heart running around outside your body.β'
-- Eric Schmidt, quoting Steve Jobs.
thanks for the quote
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I wish I could have a kid. But I'm a virgin at 35 without a job and still living with my mother. It ain't going to happen.
I'm not quite the same demographic as you, but I get it.
For me, it's simply not possible to have kids unless I adopted. And that ain't happening (adoption is a long, arduous, and expensive process and I'm only one person...wouldn't want to take that alone). I suppose technically my body might physically be able to produce kids...I haven't tried, but that's missing the point.
People sometimes ask me if I want kids and it's just such a silly question for someone like me. It's like asking if I had a mega mansion, how would I decorate the 7th bathroom? What I want is irrelevant because that's not at all in the realm of possibility.
I don't know if I would want kids or not. But since it's not possible, it's not worth dwelling over.
You're asking a bunch of lonely post redditers, all your gonna get is child free posting to cope with them not having a relationship
I have kids, it is great knowing that Iβve successfully continued my bloodline like my ancestors before me.
While those that have not procreated will die as failures in the eyes of nature. Their bloodlines will end in 100 years it will be like they were never there to begin with.
Kids are also pretty awesome to have.