If you haven't already, start by communicating that you need more and different kinds of emotional support from your partner. They deserve a chance to develop this skill. If they're not able or willing to meet your needs, you're not a good fit. I learned this the hard way. But you deserve someone who can meet your emotional support needs.

As far as the other non-romantic relationships go, you don't have to cut people off, but you should find other, more empathetic people to lean on. I have very close friends that I know will be there for me when I need emotional support. I also have other good friends who aren't as good at it, and we get along just fine and bond over shared interests.

I don't know if there's any way to "fix" this situation but I spent nearly twenty years (with some large gaps) in an asymmetrical relationship like this and it really fucked me up. If it's causing you pain you might do better to look elsewhere. After a very long healing process I've started dating again and found some far more empathetic and caring people (also all queer and ND, take that as you will). I'm not saying cut everyone off but maybe start looking for new people that don't suck. If you're even a little bit queer try going to local queer events and meeting people. I was in the closet forever due to my abusive straight-passing relationship destroying my will to live and I've met a lot of cool people that are willing to hang out and talk about our feelings and problems.

That's one part of dealing with the "human" factor of relationships. Perhaps your partner isn't as developed emotionally or doesn't have the intuition or even the right things to say. You'd think they would know - they should know you by now - but a lot of times they just don't and don't know how to respond as they aren't equipped with a solutions book. Looking for a hero and it just isn't there and it feels quite alienating and depressing. They are human and they have everything on a spectrum of every IQ / EQ IntroExtrovert whatever and it doesn't match yours like a mirror.

Our depreives people of empathy and empatheic skill. Empathy is the profit killer after all. My partner is the result of the IRL Jakarta method. He's a nice person but dealing with empathy or communicating in such a way is....difficult to think out of his own narcissitic shell. He would pick up on my emotions but not act on those clues so much. Then he has these moments when he will write little notes and be a sweetie.

So what I do, and try this - hug her. Take a moment to breathe in the embrace and tell her what's going on and how you feel. She might not respond right away to it or in the way you want in your head or what you heart really needs right now. Maybe it takes a bit for her to soak it in. But over time this builds that skill for her to pick up on and should improve the communications or at least her response to you. Everyone has their own yadda yadda wrapped up and sometimes others can come like a shock to their system like "Where'd this come from?!".

Yeah, that sucks. I already find it depressing to interact with people when they don't want to operate at the same level of depth I do with things. Like, when I'm anxious about something and they just throw out some Dr. Phil-level shit that's both untrue, unhelpful, and obviously copied from TV, religion, political propaganda. Feels like you can see the strings puppeting people and human interaction is pointless.

I have experienced a relationship like this and it's definitely a problem to be fixed. If you spend all your time comforting your partner and "solving" and it's not reciprocal, this can wear away your respect for them. You may need to make a little more of a lift: when you need support, do the work of figuring out what you want and then tell her. And then hopefully she'll learn to do that without explicit help.

Also a little bit of stereotyping:

My partner doesn't have anything other than cliches or proposed solutions to my problems that clearly aren't well thought out and are effectively useless.

Are you sure this isn't solution-oriented vs venting-oriented? Some people are very action oriented, some people have more of a passive orientation and want to sort of get it out and hear that they have options and get reassured that way. Action-oriented people feel let down when the other person just reassures them; venting-oriented people feel ignored when they're trying to blow off steam and the other person keeps trying to make plans. These are gender roles you could be unwittingly playing.

i had a nasty situation emerge from almost literally the start of covid (she came with the disease i guess), of a really inadvised third to our relationship (we are poly, but it was the first time we tried something as a proper live-in triad), and it was a situation that was quickly very one sided. She could provide money, and she tried to use it as a means of emotional control. She was very fragile emotionally, had an active meth addiction she was "hiding" [i know what that looks like, it just took time to accept that's what it was and begin being dilligent about catching her lies] - but I spent the better part of a year and a half putting up with this person who needed constant love and affirmation and gave absolutely none of it, but would money-bomb a couple of broke girls into putting up with it when she smelled a threat to her place with us.

The financial security for that year and a half was nowhere close to worth what she did to my head. PTSD symptoms worsened. Seeing obvious drug abuse behavior but being told by someone who doesnt know what that looks like, and someone just straight up lying and gaslighting, took a huge toll on my emotional stability.

I try to be there for my nesting partner still, but it has been three and a half years and I'm still not over it.

These things will ruin you if you let them. Sometimes it's best to move on, and as much as it hurt, emotionally and financiallly, We told her to leave when the lease was up, because she wouldn't be on it when we renewed.

That signed us up, ultimately, for a long game of cyclical poverty - but that's somehow less fucking terrible than living with that kind of damage.

Take care of your brain.

It might be that she simply isn’t as emotionally available. There is variance among people with that and depending on her life history, her parents parenting style, probably random shit like genetics or the mix of hormones in the womb etc, some people simply are more emotionally available than others.

And maybe consider your own upbringing. Maybe you are too giving and should be more self-centered? Or maybe you’re the type who likes being old dependable and you put others before yourself, which is exceptional and good, but you expect others to reciprocate to your high standards?

I don’t know you at all so I have no idea or intuition if any of these apply so I’m just throwing out possibilities that might apply to you or likely don’t.

My real point is maybe get therapy, not because you’re broken because you don’t seem broken, but to help you understand yourself and your needs and to have a better idea of how to navigate this imbalance and what it means for compatibility or how you can approach resolving it.